Explanation of girls being hot on the outside and cold on the inside

Many times, we would describe a person as having a sharp tongue but a soft heart, being gentle on the outside but strong on the inside, etc. These words are used to express that some people's appearance and inner heart are different or extremely opposite. Among them, "hot outside and cold inside" is also such a word. Of course, it is also possible to be cold on the outside and hot on the inside. However, depending on the person and their personality, the words used will also change.

Hot on the outside, cold on the inside: often used to describe a person's character. Hot on the outside, cold on the inside is used to describe a person who appears to be easy-going and enthusiastic; but when alone, he is very calm on the inside. Some people also understand it as: being very enthusiastic towards people on the surface, but actually being cold and ruthless and pretending in the heart.

From a psychological perspective, people who are cold on the outside but warm on the inside have two obvious personality traits:

1. They are quite sociable, easy-going and helpful.

2. Highly suspicious, defensive and wary.

The two are not contradictory. The former is his attitude towards others. He feels that helping others is harmless but beneficial; the latter is his attitude towards himself. He always remains vigilant and does not allow himself to be hurt.

This is my own dull personality. It's not a question of pretending or not. It's too difficult to change my personality. I'm this kind of person too, cold on the outside but warm on the inside. But there's nothing you can do about it. You can only let people get to know you slowly. Others are so lively and outgoing. That's their personality, not something they pretend. I've also tried my best to pretend to be outgoing, but it's difficult to force myself to do something I don't want to do. Haha, try not to change it. The process of change is very painful and it may not necessarily change the indifference in my bones. It's not a short-term thing. It's been like this for many years. I don't want to laugh at all. ?Although I am a prankster and a caring sister in front of others, I can still deal with people or things I don’t like in a gentle and easy manner. ?

But actually, I am cold. When I am alone, I am very happy. I turn off my phone, become invisible, pretend not to be at home, don’t contact anyone, and play the disappearing game. I thought everything was normal, but today I realized that I haven't had a serious date in 2 months. I have been living alone for two months. Apart from working, I have only seen my family twice. My friends want to break up with me because I broke their promises so many times. But I really hope that I am the only one on earth. Or being picked up by aliens is also fine.

Therefore, many times, when we look at things or people, we should never rely on our intuition. Don't make a final conclusion about people or things from the beginning. We all need to understand slowly and discover things before we can draw conclusions. Especially people, and even more especially women. People say that women’s hearts are as unfathomable as the sea, so you should never jump to conclusions about a person, especially a woman, based on your first impression. You can only get to know people slowly after getting to know them slowly. Of course, there are also some people whom you may not be able to understand even after being in contact with them for a long time, because humans are one of the most complex primates. So, remember, don't jump to conclusions.