People who are urged to get married can't stand it

Many older girls say that the gift their mothers want most is to be told by them that they already have a boyfriend, or to be told that they are getting married. Girls like these must be overwhelmed by their parents' pressure to get married. What are the situations in which your parents urge you to get married? I believe that only outstanding people who have been urged to get married can understand.

I had a friend who was so stressed out about getting married that he became depressed.

Because their family lives in the countryside and they are only 30 years old, if they live in the city, it is actually very normal for them not to want to get married at the age of 30. But in their village, if you don’t want to get married at the age of 30, you can’t even get married for the second time. Since they felt that she didn't want to get married at such an old age, she must have some mental problems.

At first, she made unfounded arguments and engaged in heated debates with her aunts and uncles in an attempt to gain their understanding. After several failed attempts at communication, she chose to remain silent, in order to save her energy and absorb the situation herself.

Others say that if a country does not perish in silence, it will explode in silence. It was indeed her father who first exploded. The boy who always treated her as a commodity. Because of being criticized by others so much, he finally exploded.

My father told her that she no longer wanted to get married and that he wanted to sever their father-daughter relationship with her. He also said something that made her feel the most humiliating in her life, "The family has a big fat pig, which is famous. The family has a daughter, who is notorious." Notorious and famous, these two idioms are the two idioms that my father used most often in his life.

So she gave in later and started to cooperate with her family to go on blind dates. Her boyfriend changed from a mismatched man to a young wolfdog several years younger than her, and finally to a divorced man.

And she became the most disrespectful person in the village. When she went out to work, she secretly vowed to herself that she would have no goals and would never go home again. She was afraid that if she went home too often, she would become a mentally ill person.

She returned to the city and regained her former confidence. She was no longer in a hurry to go on blind dates or get married. But I still lived my life diligently. One year later, I met my current teacher at a reading meeting.

Now, she has become the happiest person in the village. Every year, she brings her parents to travel with her. Many people envy her and her parents. It was as if the incident of her being pressured into getting married to the point of depression had never happened. There are girls like this around me, who are forced to get married by their parents again and again, and urged to go on blind dates again and again. They often think about running away, and naturally they have more extreme thoughts.

Yes, most people cannot afford this gap.

Originally, you were the most diligent and hardworking girl in the family, and the whole family took you as a role model. Just because you are an older young woman, it is easy for anyone in the family to point fingers at you, even your brothers and sisters can criticize you, and your influence may indeed be less than that of the Husky we keep at home.

To be honest, I really feel sorry for this kind of girl. She is already feeling depressed for not meeting the right person, and now she has to be surrounded by a group of people. But, do you think that running away as a way of protesting against your parents will solve the problem? Are parents urging you to get married just out of affection? Do you think your parents are urging you to get married just to help you deal with this important life event right away and don’t care about your feelings?

These are all your thoughts, you are definitely wrong.

In fact, parents urge you to get married out of real worry. They are afraid that you will not be happy in the future and that all good husbands will be snatched away by others. If you get married early, even if you are not rich temporarily, they can still help you bear some of the family pressure and give you a hand. If you get married early and are really unhappy, they can still become your safe haven. Even if you really meet a philandering man, they have the ability to stand up and seek justice for you.

When they get older, they are really older. Apart from feeling sorry for you, they can only stand behind you and watch over you quietly, and then give up on you with regret.

So, do you really understand your parents? Mom and dad are really the most selfless. The love they give you has exceeded your love for them, and all they do is worry about you and consider you.

They hope you get married as soon as possible, and they hope you will be happy in the future.

I hope that every girl who is urged to get married can quickly find happiness, and I hope that every girl who is urged to get married can become the best girl.