When are women most likely to divorce?

Before marriage, women love to hear men say "I love you". They want him to repeat these three words over and over again and even provide evidence to prove his love for her. So men, fearing that they are not doing enough, keep giving her this and that as proof of their love. But most men always feel that the status of both parties has been determined after marriage, and they don’t need to care for their wives anymore. Thinking back to the time when I was pursuing her, there were flowers, gifts, candlelight dinners, walks on the beach, all kinds of sweet talk under the moonlight, but after marriage I felt that I had given too much before marriage and it is obviously unnecessary now.

In today's industrial society, men and women work together in the workplace, and the relationship between work and extramarital affairs is obvious.

Apart from online dating, the office is the ideal place to give birth to extramarital affairs. Foreign experts discovered in the early years that among all age groups, the women who had the most affairs were between 26 and 30 years old. However, a recent survey pointed out that the rate of cheating among women in their 20s is even 10% higher than that of men of the same age. A 1988 U.S. investigation into extramarital affairs reported that young women were cheating on their husbands faster than ever before. On average, women who married before 1960 had their first affair 14 and a half years after marriage. Nowadays, women start having extramarital affairs just 5 years after getting married.

What is even more shocking is that nowadays women start planning to move on four years after marriage.

Professor Hill, an anthropologist at Rutgers University in the United States, spent 15 years traveling to 62 countries to conduct research and finally came to the above conclusion. She pointed out that the four-year time period from when a woman accepts a proposal, gets married, has an affair to when she divorces is pre-set by her innate program, causing the chemicals in her brain that make her fall in love with someone else to disappear within 36 months. She then takes a year to recognize this fact, then goes out to look for a new partner and then divorces.

Professor Fisher also pointed out that another reason why women get divorced is that their genes tell them that children need to be raised by a series of men in order to develop various talents and have a greater chance of survival. This explains why it is usually women who file for divorce.

The above-mentioned study by Professor Fisher reported that women's genes tell them that their children need to be raised by a series of men, which coincides with the views of paleoanthropologists. They have always believed that primitive humans practiced group marriage in the cave-dwelling era. In order to survive, women resumed sexual activity as soon as possible after giving birth in order to keep men by their side to provide food and protection. But it is unknown whether the men at that time were only willing to live with women until the children were weaned, or to leave until the children could walk. Is this period of time exactly the four years that Professor Fisher mentioned? In addition, has this suggestive gene been preserved to this day, causing women to want to change their minds four years after marriage? Scholars are requested to conduct further research on these two points.

Generally speaking, men are most promiscuous in their 20s before marriage.

On the contrary, women are most likely to cheat when they are between 30 and 35 years old after marriage. There are also certain social factors behind this: in Hong Kong, where every inch of land is valuable, the cost of mortgage and rent has become the heaviest financial burden on families, and they have to live frugally to barely make ends meet. Therefore, the living area of ​​most families is very small, which is not conducive to having children. Many young couples are unwilling to have children, or only want to have one, after many years of marriage, and it is for this reason.

If a woman gives birth to a child around the age of 28, within ten years the child will be in the fourth or fifth year of primary school and will gradually learn to take care of himself, so the mother does not need to worry too much.

Compared to before, she now has more freedom and time, but fewer constraints. On the contrary, her husband is busy with life. At work, he may be at a critical juncture in his career and may not have much time to take care of and care for her. Before marriage, he would give her roses, but now even watching a movie together is a luxury. The sweet words that used to come out of his mouth are now gone. Maybe he was really too tired to have more sex. The loneliness and resentment in her heart also arose spontaneously.

Generally speaking, women always think that they should enjoy the same love and romance after marriage as they did before marriage. The timely appearance of the extramarital lover makes up for the lack of passion. Once a woman receives care, praise and compliments from another man, it is inevitable that she will fall in love. The lover's feelings are romantic and passionate. He takes good care of her and gives her warmth and comfort whenever she is lost. In addition, when a woman is 30 to 35 years old after marriage, she reaches the peak of her sexual life. Without the comfort and love of her husband, she often cannot resist the loneliness and is tempted, and extramarital affairs become uncontrollable.

Women today are more educated than their mothers' generation.

A woman between 30 and 35 years old has been working in society for 10 to 15 years, and her income should have increased several times compared to when she first started working, and she is no longer as poor as when she first started. Stable and considerable income, as well as a relatively complete comprehensive social security system, eliminate the worries that women may have in the event of divorce. It can be said that the improvement of women's education level and economic independence have greatly increased the trend of divorce in today's society, which in turn leads to the emergence of extramarital affairs among women.

In the past, if a woman was unfaithful to her husband and her crime was exposed, her life would be ruined. Today, social moral standards have changed greatly, and most people are more tolerant and fair towards extramarital affairs. Even if it is unfortunately exposed, at worst you can still find a marriage counselor or simply go to court to go through the divorce procedures. Compared to their grandmothers' generation, today's women, especially those with higher education, have no difficulty living independently after divorce, raising children alone, or remarrying.