How to increase your value after marriage

After marriage, be a charming woman! How can a woman "add value" after marriage?

(1) The economic base determines the superstructure

Value-added does not mean increasing “money”, but it cannot be separated from money. Women's independence and freedom come first from economy. When a man feels that he is "supporting" you, he is justified in any way he wants to control you or get rid of you. When a woman is able to support herself, she will not be afraid even if the future is uncertain, because she has the capital and strength to face the changes calmly.

The following points all rely on the economic foundation. If you want to have beauty treatments, you can afford them; if you want to buy clothes, you can afford them; if you want to develop a hobby, you can afford it; if you want to read books, you can afford them; if you want to go places, you can afford to go; if you want to make friends, you can afford them... Think about it, all of this is inseparable from financial independence, and it is not enough to just have a heart that pursues it.

(2) Have your own career and don’t lose touch with society

Work is a source of income, but it is not just about making money. Women often do not feel a sense of "achievement" in their contributions to the family because their husbands often take their efforts for granted and do not even appreciate or feel grateful for them. However, women can get full affirmation at work, which will increase their confidence.

Career can also keep women in tune with society. The most terrifying thing is that my home has become a besieged city and I have become a frog in a well, with no chance to broaden my horizons. If a woman regards her husband and children as her entire "career", her chances of career success are very low.

(3) Women dress up to please others, but also for themselves.

Depreciation starts with age and appearance. There's nothing you can do about it, judging people by their appearance is human nature. However, there are no ugly women, only lazy women. Growing old in a marriage in disgrace is just your own choice. Many women pay great attention to dressing up and their appearance before getting married, but become sloppy after getting married.

We cannot change the vicissitudes of time and the fading of beauty, but we have the right to keep ourselves fresh and clean, and the right to dress elegantly and appropriately. You must learn how to take care of your skin. Take some time out from your busy schedule to put on a facial mask and do some beauty treatments to make yourself look radiant. Clothes don’t have to be branded or expensive, but they must suit your skin tone, body shape and temperament. Beautiful women are pleasing to the eye, and men would be proud to have a beautiful and tasteful wife.

(4) Be kind to others, but don’t be mean to yourself

Some divorced women often regret: "I was so stupid before. I didn't want to spend money on food and clothes. I spent hundreds of dollars to buy clothes for him, but I never wore clothes that cost more than one hundred yuan. I was thrifty and planned for the future of the family, but I didn't leave a way out for myself..."

It is certainly understandable for a woman to be good to her husband and children, but it does not mean that she has to sacrifice herself. You should know that no one in this world loves yourself more than you do. If you don't treat yourself well, who will treat you well? Marriage is not a reason to neglect yourself, and marriage is not the culprit for creating a shrewd woman.

(5) Develop a habit of reading and absorb knowledge

Women who like reading are generally more profound and tend to have a good attitude. Reading is not all about professional scientific and technological knowledge, it is more about "knowledge" of life. A good book contains great wisdom. Women should be good at gaining wisdom and understanding philosophy from books, and improving their own quality and cultivation through other people's stories and experiences. Another benefit of reading is that you can learn to be quiet, to think, and to appreciate happiness. When reading becomes a habit, women will face the pain in life with a calm mind.

(6) Maintain a passion for learning throughout your life

Similar to the previous point, learning does not necessarily mean learning professional science and technology, but means that all aspects of life require learning. In modern society, the “shelf life” of knowledge and love is getting shorter and shorter. If you don’t want to be overwhelmed by the tide of competition (competition with peers, competition with third parties), and don’t want to be surrounded by crises (economic crisis, career crisis, marriage crisis, etc.), then you must study hard and be good at learning, so that you can become a true self-added woman, live and learn, and learn as long as you live.

(7) He has his world, you have yours

The most dangerous behavior of a woman is that once she meets the man she likes, she will turn into a weak and boneless green vine without any energy or veins, and tightly wrap around the man. This kind of love is terrible. Not only will it cause one to lose oneself and devalue love, it will also suffocate men. All the content in your life is left with him. If you are a man, are you afraid? Therefore, women should not be fragile vases or embellishments of men. They should have self-respect, be strong, independent and beautiful. Just imagine, when a woman's value is firmly bound to a man, it is only likely to shrink continuously, with no room for improvement.

(8) Stay away from being a nagging woman and refuse to be a complaining woman, a shrew, a fierce woman, or a gossiper.

The word "fussy" comes from the characteristics of women. Always repeating similar words in front of a man just shows that your thoughts are simple and boring. Don't complain about trivial matters all day long. God is really fair. Don't think that you are the most miserable, wronged, and tired person in the world. Everyone will encounter troubles, and nine out of ten things will not go as planned. But a wise woman knows how to resolve difficulties cleverly, wait for the sunshine with a smile, and knows how to seek satisfaction, discover happiness, and harvest happiness in simplicity and plainness.

(9) Cultivate hobbies and learn how to create interest in life

A woman must have a sense of fun. When you find yourself gossiping about other people's affairs and watching soap operas every day, you should take a good look in the mirror, because such an image is destined to be boring or even disgusting in the eyes of men. Cultivate some hobbies, such as reading, music, calligraphy, painting, dancing, yoga, recitation, photography... anything is fine. Hiding your talents is like aging wine, which becomes more fragrant as it ages, and its fragrance spreads further. Life thus becomes vivid and fulfilling.

(10) Having close friends

Men never lack "buddies" and can always chat and drink with them to their heart's content, but women are often "lonely" after marriage. Their "best friends" when they were single rarely keep in touch and become increasingly distant because they are all busy with their families, husbands and children. Therefore, women become more and more isolated and lonely. Once they are sad and lost, there is no one to talk to, no one to encourage and comfort them.