What should I do if my wife doesn't want to have children?

Many years ago, the traditional view of marriage was to date first, get married after stability, and prepare for childbirth after marriage. This was the process. However, nowadays, many women are actually very resistant to the idea of ​​having children. Do boys understand the reasons? What would you do if your wife doesn't want to have children?

What to do if my wife doesn't want to have a divorce

1. Discuss with your wife

The home is the fusion of two people, and having children is a satisfactory result for both of them. If one party does not want to have a child, the other party does not have the right to apply for a patent and the other party can have the child. At this time, the husband can discuss with his wife and understand the reason why she does not want to have children. After understanding the cause, we can find a solution and reach a consensus with each other.

2. Ask relatives and friends to mediate

Although having a child is a matter for a couple, if the couple cannot reach an agreement, it is easy to be stuck in the core area of ​​the disagreement and will not be able to further resolve the problem. Therefore, you can ask relatives and friends to help mediate.

3. Divorce by litigation

If a couple cannot reach an agreement on whether to have children, they can apply to the People's Procuratorate for divorce on the grounds of emotional breakdown. The people's court should give priority to mediation. If mediation fails, the people's court shall determine that the marriage of the couple has broken down and grant divorce.

Why doesn't my wife want to have a baby?

1. Girls are becoming more and more educated, so the cost of having children is getting higher and higher, and they may lose their jobs.

This is one of the opinions that many people think. This name seems to make some sense, but in fact it is only superficial. Social development requires women to have children, husbands require women to have children, parents-in-law require women to have children, but companies do not want women to have children. This makes the biggest problem here is that the cost of childbirth is borne entirely by women. Employment discrimination: the most likely consequence for women when they have children is job loss. Once women give birth, many are fired from their jobs, or they become housewives for two years because of the high cost of a nanny. But it is even more difficult to return to the workplace when you first started. And all this has basically no impact on my husband, my parents-in-law, my company, or society.

2. The increase in China’s divorce rate.

This is also a concern for many women. If the country's current policy is beneficial to divorced mothers, then there is no big problem with divorce. Before, the wife took care of the children, and now after the divorce, the wife is still the one taking care of the children. There is no difference. But the problem is that on the one hand, China's divorce rate is rising, while on the other hand, the country does not have any policy bias towards divorced mothers. The former causes more and more women to have concerns about having children. If we divorce in the future, I would rather not have children. The latter causes women to feel that once divorced, the daily life of me and the children will be greatly affected, and I cannot bear it alone. Although the state stipulates that once the child returns to the mother after a divorce, the father has to pay for the child's upbringing, men cannot all be second-generation rich, but everyone knows that the cost of raising children is so high nowadays, that little money is simply a drop in the bucket, and after the divorce, the husband may remarry, so the economic care for his wife's children will also be greatly affected.

3. The cost of having children is getting higher and higher, and the pressure of work is getting heavier

In the past, everyone thought that the more children there were, the better, because a ten-year-old child could help his parents herd sheep and harvest wheat, and more people contributed. However, today's children not only do not do these things, but parents need to start thinking about their children from the moment they are born. In order for their babies to receive a good education, parents should start considering school district housing. After buying the school-district housing, I considered buying a car to take my children out for a ride and explore the market. When the children are older, they can apply for tutoring institutions. Parents have to apply for their children in various tutoring institutions. Adding the expenses of the children's food and clothing, it is definitely an expensive expense. I still have to buy a house for my children until they graduate. With the development of today's society, not only boys need to buy houses, but girls need to buy houses as well. Parents work hard for half their lives to help their children pay the down payment. When you do the math, it's really a bottomless pit.

4. Changes in the human body caused by childbirth.

This doesn't just mean gaining weight. There are more and more reports saying that women who don't want to have children are more likely to get sick, but the problem is that having children can also make you more susceptible to other diseases. For example, postpartum depression, rheumatism, and a series of pregnancy diseases. This kind of selective reporting is simply offensive. There are actually men who say that everyone is equal in Europe and the United States and that women do not need to observe confinement after childbirth. The maternity leave salary and benefits for European and American women are much better than those in my country. And do you think that after giving birth, the use is over and women’s physical and mental health no longer needs to be considered? Some also say that it is my country's International Women's Day. If the rights given to men can be given to women, then who would care about this nonsense International Women's Day? It’s okay to give boys a one-month Men’s Day. What's more, how many women celebrate International Women's Day for themselves? Think about what everyone's mothers do on International Women's Day? What do your wives do on Women's Day? It’s sad just thinking about it.

5. The husband is a "mama's boy", which makes women too tired

In addition to being afraid of having children, there are also people who are unwilling to have children. On the one hand, there is the work pressure of just entering the workplace, and on the other hand, there is the disappointment with the loved one.

Many men still think that raising children is a woman’s natural duty. They are only responsible for giving birth to children for you, but not for raising the children for you, leaving women to bear the pain alone.

Not only are they squeezed out at work, but they also have to deal with the difficult task of raising a child alone in their daily lives. How many women would still want to have children?