Why didn't I see red the first time?

Sexual life is an act that all adults experience. For women who have sex for the first time, they will generally experience spotting. Some people even use this as a criterion for determining whether it is a woman's first time having sex. It is important to know that not all women will experience bleeding during their first sexual intercourse. So, what happens if there is no bleeding during the first sexual intercourse?

1. What happened if I didn’t see red the first time?

There are individual differences in whether there is no bleeding during the first sexual intercourse, which may be related to the following factors.

One is that in childhood, the hymen is ruptured due to accidental injury without the child knowing it, such as straddle injuries. Second, if a woman's hymen is relatively thin and she has done strenuous exercise before sexual intercourse, such as running, weight-bearing and other activities, it is also easy to cause hymen rupture, and there will be no bleeding during the first sexual intercourse. Third, if a woman’s hymen is relatively thick, and the sexual intercourse movements are small or cannot touch the hymen, there will be no bleeding for the first time.

Also, if a woman has a closed, imperforate hymen that will not rupture and cause bleeding after sexual intercourse, she can seek medical treatment for this condition.

2. What to do when having sex for the first time

The first time you have sex, you should do enough foreplay and make the vagina fully moist before insertion. The penis should be inserted slowly and gently, which can significantly reduce the pain. Both parties should interact and ask each other about their feelings at any time to achieve a sex life that satisfies both parties.

First of all, the pain experienced by a virgin during her first sexual intercourse is mostly not caused by the rupture of the hymen. The hymen is rich in blood vessels but has only a few nerves, so when it ruptures it does not itself cause significant pain. Some shapes of hymen rupture are almost painless, and the pain is further reduced after lubrication. Most of the pain during first-time sexual intercourse is caused by the insertion of the penis. Before the first sexual intercourse, the vaginal wall is in close contact, and the friction between the penis and the vaginal wall will cause a feeling of fullness, burning, or even stinging.

Secondly, many first night pains are related to psychological factors such as fear and helplessness, which requires psychological comfort and more communication between both parties.

Finally, some people experience pain every time they have sexual intercourse, which requires them to go to a specialized hospital's gynecology department for relevant examinations.

3. What to pay attention to when having sex for the first time

It is very necessary for both men and women to clean their external genitalia before and after sexual intercourse, and necessary contraceptive measures should be taken. Women should try to relax their thighs, bend their legs and spread them apart, and push down slightly on the perineum. For men, they must not act rashly during their first sexual intercourse. They should be more gentle and considerate and let the other person relax. It is recommended to watch some sex education films first, and both parties must do a good job of cleaning up afterwards. If the above symptoms worsen, patients are advised to go to a public hospital for timely treatment.