How many times a night is normal?

In our lives, newlyweds definitely want children, and they are also particularly keen on sex. However, there must be a limit to everything they do, and they must be moderate, otherwise it is likely to cause physical weakness. Especially for men, if sex is too frequent, it is likely to cause kidney deficiency. So, how many times a night is normal?

To ensure adequate food and clothing, one must have three meals a day, at regular times and in regular quantities. However, the frequency of sexual life does not seem to have formed a regular and quantitative pattern. Some people endure "hunger and thirst" to protect themselves, while others "overeat" to squander their wealth. There is still no consensus on which is right and which is wrong.

There is a formula for sexual frequency

Regarding the most reasonable frequency of sexual life, there used to be an algorithm of "rounding off age": for people in their teens, multiply the "age" by 9. In the resulting two-digit number, the tens digit represents the number of "weeks" and the ones digit represents the maximum number of "times". For example, before the age of 30, 3×9=27, which means it is reasonable to have sex 7 times within 2 weeks. If you are 40 years old, 4×9=36, the frequency of sexual life should be controlled to 6 times in 3 weeks (that is, 2 times a week)... and so on. If you still have the energy at the age of 70, once every half a month is enough.

But the formula that seems very "scientific" is actually not the standard answer. It’s just that many people believe that just like eating, sex also needs to maintain a stable degree to be healthy. But it seems that some people eat more and some people eat less, so it's hard to give everyone the same size "bowl" when it comes to sex. Generally speaking, the number of sexual intercourses is basically inversely proportional to age, that is, the older you are, the fewer times you have sex. However, even couples of similar age can be very different from each other, and even different combinations can have different effects.

From an individual perspective, differences in physique, occupation, and even personality can lead to huge differences in the frequency of sexual intercourse. Add to that the influence of many variable factors such as climate, environment, time, and mood, and it's really not easy for two people to figure out "how many times a week is best" and stick to it. Even if they really figure it out, the couple will find that there are obvious differences in the needs for sexual life between men and women.

Reverse psychology is not wrong

Modern women have an increasingly stronger sexual awareness, and some even believe that maintaining a vigorous and regular sex life is the secret to eternal youth. However, according to normal human physiological needs, a woman only needs to have sex once a week, and deducting those few days each month, an average of about 3 times a month is needed. This sounds a bit too cold. However, it has been proven that frequent sexual intercourse does not delay the onset of menopause. Everyone still has to find the most suitable amount based on their individual circumstances.

For men, the misleading is quite different. From the licentious emperors to the dissolute playboys, it seems that too much sex is always a symbol of physical and mental harm. Therefore, there are sayings such as "cherish essence to nourish the body" and "replenish essence to nourish the brain" and even equate "essence" and "blood" in a certain proportion to show their precious value.

However, modern sex research has come up with a different answer: the decline and loss of male sexual ability is often a sign of hidden health problems, and patients with diabetes and hypertension are prone to impotence and premature ejaculation.

Since ancient times, male dominance has led to sexual dominance, and women have been oppressed in this regard. Therefore, modern people have more or less some rebellious mentality and hope to break with tradition. Many stories have been brought up in this way and used as negative examples. The correct approach is that women should be braver and more "sexual"; men need to leave some wiggle room to ensure a "long-term relationship".