Will girls scream in pain the first time?

The most intimate contact between a man and a woman is sex. This experience is wonderful and is also the sublimation of love between two people. However, for couples who are having sex for the first time, especially girls, it is inevitable that they will be very nervous the first time, and almost all girls who have had their first sexual experience will say that they feel very strong pain. So, does it really hurt for girls the first time?

First, let me give you an interesting example: everyone has generally accepted that there is no bleeding during the first night. That is to say, many people know that the hymen is just a thin membrane that can be easily ruptured during strenuous exercise, and in many cases it happens without being noticed. In other words, facts have proven that, in fact, rupture of this membrane does not cause pain, at least not obvious pain, otherwise how could women not notice it? But why do people accept the idea that there is no bleeding during the first night, but do not accept the idea that rupture of the hymen does not cause pain? The reason is very simple. People have been passing on the saying "it hurts the first time", and literature, film and television and other media also promote the pain of the first night, and associate this feeling very closely with the innocence of girls, so that synesthesia has been generated in people's minds: that the first sexual life means distortion, pain is something that women must overcome in this ritual, and women are destined to suffer and suffer, so women should at least be cautious about their first night for fear of pain. If the man doesn't want you anymore, your pain and efforts will be in vain.

In this situation, no woman thinks that the first night will not be painful, and the more innocent the woman is, the more painful it will be. This shows how much you love your partner and how much you dedicate yourself to him with a noble spirit of sacrifice. Because women cannot keep their virginity 100% and can only use the pain of the first night as evidence. This unconsciously reinforces the concept that "the feeling in the vagina during the first sexual intercourse must be painful", which has almost become a collective subconscious, leaving no doubt about it for both men and women. Men will therefore cherish women's dedication, and women will therefore demand men's loyalty.

Such an idea must have its rationale for existence, and it is a classic product of patriarchal cultural hegemony. Too many women are afraid of the action of penis inserting into the vagina because of the so-called pain. They are even very scared when they think about it, and they cannot have a normal sexual life with their spouse for many years after marriage. The resulting public opinion of not having children, divorce tragedies, guilt towards their husbands, etc., have caused them long-term psychological pressure and led to a series of psychological and/or physiological problems, such as anxiety, depression, gynecological inflammation, autoimmune diseases, skin diseases, etc.

Therefore, in order to eliminate this misconception, women’s sexual rights must be fundamentally liberated, allowing them to enjoy the same rights as men and respect each other with men. In this way, women will not feel that they have suffered a loss, made sacrifices, or been bullied because of having voluntary sex. At the same time, the explanation of the hymen in sex education must be in place.

The hymen is a natural physiological barrier of the vagina and can play a certain role in protecting the vaginal environment of young girls. However, this protective effect is not important because rupture does not increase the risk of vaginal infection. Therefore, the hymen is actually just a remnant of the genetic evolution process. Many people are born with very shallow hymen traces. As the body grows and develops, this membrane is slowly stretched and many holes appear. Some holes fuse together to form large holes that allow menstrual blood to pass through. When the holes are very large, the hymen can basically no longer be seen.

Finally, let me explain why most women say “it hurts the first time.” In a natural state, the front and back walls of the vagina fit well together. When a foreign object is inserted into the vagina for the first time, the vaginal mucosa is subjected to unprecedented fresh stimulation, and our brain must recognize this new sense of touch. If we recognize this new feeling as touch, a feeling of being stretched, or a feeling of fullness, we will not have an emotional reaction of fear; if we have a presupposition in our minds that the first night must be painful, then this new feeling will naturally be recognized as pain, making us fearful and afraid, because everyone is afraid of pain; if we have positive expectations for sex, then we will recognize this feeling as strong sexual stimulation and sexual sensation, which will make us sexually excited. This is something that can be explained with common knowledge of psychology; it is not mysterious.