After giving birth, I became sexually indifferent

During pregnancy, the organs of the whole body will undergo changes. Our intelligent urinary system will automatically suppress sexual desire in order to protect the happy growth of the baby in the belly. Generally, it takes two months after giving birth for the internal organs of the human body to slowly recover. Most women can resume their sexual life after the traditional 42-day confinement period.

However, breastfeeding mothers are still in a special endocrine state, with increased lactation hormone, and monthly ovulation and regular estrogen and progesterone secretion are suppressed. The vaginal condition has not returned to its pre-pregnancy state, but is similar to the vagina after menopause, with a thin mucosa, lack of elasticity and flexibility, especially for breastfeeding mothers, the symptoms are more obvious. This can cause women who have just given birth to feel uncomfortable friction, burning sensations, and even pain during sex.

Secondly, when they become new mothers, women are fully immersed in the process of parenting. Most of their attention will be transferred to their children, such as breastfeeding their babies day and night, which makes them physically and mentally exhausted. Many new mothers are so tired at night that they fall asleep as soon as they lie down on the bed, and naturally they have no "sexual desire", even when communicating with their husbands, the topic is always about the children, thus losing the sexy desire that women must have, which is the most important reason for postpartum sexual apathy.

What to do if you are sexually cold?

1. Massage sensitive parts to enhance sexual desire

The husband helps his wife massage the erogenous zones and sensitive areas, such as the inside of the ears, neck, thighs, armpits, breasts, nipples, etc., with slow and gentle movements, and presses lightly with the fingertips to make the woman feel happy and comfortable. Massage once a day.

2. Diet therapy for frigidity

Women with sexual frigidity can eat the following foods to alleviate sexual frigidity: wolfberry, ginger, shallot, Cistanche, sesame, walnut kernels, lamb, beef, venison, rooster, as well as herbal medicines prepared with animal penis, testicles, and kidney function.

3. Actively communicate to reduce sexual indifference

For wives with psychological trauma or mental concerns, husbands should patiently guide their wives and help them eliminate their concerns; if the pressure and disharmony caused by the woman's lack of sexual knowledge, the couple should actively communicate, learn sexual knowledge, understand each other's self-awareness and psychological needs, and actively promote and try under the premise of mutual consent, and learn to appreciate and praise each other. Sexual intercourse should be delicate, careful and gentle, with more adequate foreplay to promote harmonious sex life.

If a person does not have the time and energy to enjoy married life, it means that he does not have the time and energy to enjoy a good life! Therefore, new mothers need to "recharge" themselves again and take some time off from their children every day, even if it's just letting the father and the child play at home for a while, or going to a nearby cafe to have a drink or read a newspaper. Only by restoring yourself by taking care of your children wholeheartedly can you rekindle your interest in your husband. And children will also gain more love and affection from both parents because of the nourishment of everyone's emotions.