This is what a good wife looks like in the eyes of men

As a woman, I don’t know much about men; as a wife, I don’t ask much of my husband; as a mother, I don’t expect much from my children. Am I being a bit idle and vulgar? In fact, I know in my heart that no matter how much you ask of your husband, he may not do it perfectly. Only when you quarrel do you discover that he has many shortcomings. In fact, he is actually a very good man. As a mother, no matter how high your expectations are for your children, you also have to consider their interests and hobbies. She likes singing and dancing, and she can perform well without your guidance or enrolling her in interest classes. However, even if you require your child to do this and that, it may cause invisible pressure on the child, which may be good or bad. Of course, all parents in the world hope for good results. Today I won’t talk about that, but I will talk about the five good requirements that men have for their wives. Although I don’t know if all men think this way, I have read some books on marriage recently and I have figured out some of my experiences:

1. Men require their wives to be gentle, virtuous, and considerate.

Yes, all men hope that their wives are gentle, considerate, and take care of their daily life in every possible way. When I wake up in the morning, I can say good morning, see a hot breakfast, and before I go out, I can hear my wife say: Be safe. Occasionally, I will receive a greeting call from my wife at work. My dear, what have you been busy with all day? When I get home from get off work, I can see the slippers that my wife has already placed at the door, and the table full of food. My children greet me warmly, and my wife takes care of me considerately. A warm home is very important to a man. He must devote himself to the home, fight for his children, and work for his wife. Having a happy and warm family is enough, even if the family is not rich, as long as they are safe and harmonious and happy.

Second, men require their wives to respect their parents and take good care of the elderly.

A family of three cannot be separated from each other's parents. I hope my husband can take good care of my parents, and my husband also hopes that I can be filial to his parents. After all, parents did the hard work and raised their children. Who wouldn’t want their significant other to be good to their parents? But in today's society, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often not easy to adjust. When they live together, there are always conflicts, and the husband is sandwiched in the middle. This may also be related to the family conditions of each other. Why do some daughters-in-law get along so well with their mothers-in-law and sisters-in-law? This may be because they need to learn to be humble and tolerant. Last year, my mother-in-law came to Beijing for two months to take care of the children. Although we didn't have a big fight, we had many small conflicts. I think as a husband, he was probably really torn at the time because he was caught in the middle. Later, my mother-in-law went back, and when we went back during the Chinese New Year, our relationship surprisingly became better. Perhaps distance can bring family harmony, but taking care of the parents-in-law should be the wife's responsibility. Now the two elders are in their hometown and can do it themselves. They don't want to cause trouble for us. Just now my mother-in-law called Zhezhe and wished her a happy Children's Day. In fact, as long as the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good, my husband doesn't have to worry about anything else and everything will be fine.

Third, men all require their wives to be able to give birth to children and raise them.

As a man, as long as he gets married, settles down and lives a good life, he will want children. A family without children also lacks joy. No matter how happy the DINKs are, they cannot compare to the joy brought by a new life. Really, this is what I said, and it was said by a married man with children. Perhaps those who have not yet had children cannot understand. In fact, after marriage, men and women live in their own world, which is extremely romantic. But when a child suddenly appears, the world seems to be in chaos, and every day they are either dealing with milk powder and diapers, or with poop and laundry. In fact, when a woman is pregnant with a new life, her temperament changes greatly. She starts to become more understanding from being ignorant of the world before, because she has a baby in her belly. After the baby is born, women, and men too, grow up with their children again. From the moment the baby cries when he or she is born to the time when the baby can speak and crawl, it is such a difficult growth process. So some people say that a woman who does not give birth to a child cannot be considered a real woman. Only a woman who has given birth to a child and escaped from the gates of hell can know the preciousness of life. I used to be puzzled as to why my colleague asked her husband to be close to the delivery room and why she loved her daughter so much, but now I understand, because that is the fruit of their love. Every man hopes that his wife will give birth to a child for him, and then they can raise the child together and record every detail of the child, including his joys and sorrows. I have a friend who has been married for many years but has not been able to have children. He is so anxious. You can see this on TV many times, where many families are broken up because they cannot continue the family line. well!

Fourth, men require their wives to be the pillar of their careers and the woman behind them.

Men all require their wives to be the pillar of their careers and the woman who supports them behind the scenes. It doesn’t matter if this woman is raising the children at home full-time, or working outside and silently supporting them, or it’s a husband-and-wife shop like ours. Actually, sometimes I hear people say that we are a husband-and-wife shop, and I think it sounds bad, but it is the fact. We do run the business together and are inseparable from each other. He is in charge of technology and I am in charge of sales, and we are inseparable. Obviously, as the business expands, more human and financial resources will be needed. A woman who stays at home full-time to look after and raise children is great, because when she takes care of the children and the family, the man can work outside with peace of mind and build his career, all for the children and the family. It is not easy to have a wife who silently supports you and shares the joys and sorrows with you all the way. I was reading a book one time and saw a couple getting divorced. The couple said that they cherished each other when their lives were the most difficult, and had come all the way from scratch. But when they became wealthy, the man began to dislike his wife, saying that she had become a shrew because she only took care of the housework and the children every day. In fact, as a wife, she doesn't want to become a shrew, but for the sake of this family, she has to give everything and be the successful woman behind the man. So I hope that when a man is successful in his career and has a happy family, he will pay more attention to his wife, who is with him day and night, through thick and thin, and always walks with him.

5. Men require their wives to take care of everything in the family and do all the housework.

Men ask their wives to take care of everything in the family, the elderly, children, home, career, everything... and do all the housework. Men hope to see hot meals at home when they come home from work, and hope their wives will iron their clothes every day so they can be dressed neatly for work. He hopes that his wife can pick up and drop off the children every day, and then take care of his parents for him, especially those parents with mobility difficulties. He wants his wife to take care of everything without regrets and do all the housework. In fact, I personally think that we should think from another perspective. If a woman wants a man to do all the housework, will the husband have no complaints? Will he make selfless contributions? I think the answer may not be yes. In this case, I think you should also be considerate of your wife with a tolerant heart and help her with some things that you can do, such as washing dishes after meals, folding clothes, helping to pick vegetables when cooking, telling stories to children before bedtime... Don't think that these are just small things in life. In fact, it really takes a lot of time and energy to do them one by one. Maybe your wife, like you, works away from home all day and wants to be served when she comes home. In fact, as long as the couple runs the household together, the burden may not be so heavy.

Finally, I don’t know if what I wrote is what all men think. If you were a wife, would you do this? This is not a moral requirement, it is just a truth learned from life. Personal opinion, not representative of all. If you have any ideas, you are encouraged to speak up. Some people have things on their mind but don’t know who to talk to. Actually, I’m the same. When I have something on my mind, I write a blog. Now blogging has become a good way for me to express my thoughts. Life is one week after another, we must learn to savor it carefully...