What kind of security do women need?

Everyone will say that boys need a sense of trust and women need a sense of belonging. But too many men will repeatedly ask others and themselves, what exactly is considered a sense of belonging? I let you live in a luxury villa, let you drive a luxury car, and let you live a life of luxury. Isn’t that enough security? So, what kind of sense of belonging do women need?

Men finally shouted: Women, what do you want? It may be very difficult to understand the so-called inner desires of women from a man's perspective, no matter how old you are or how rich your experience is. Even Freud couldn't explain it properly. His incorrect view of women actually defined it as: women are men with castrated sexual organs. Because it is impossible to truly understand it, it can only be explained and defined using overly systematic mental and even physiological characteristics. So what kind of sense of belonging do women really need? Let's discuss and analyze it together today to deal with the relationship grudges caused by unintentional disagreements and misunderstandings between each other.

1. There is a sense of belonging called - when you are needed, you are by my side

In emotional relationships, many men say that they have been very hardworking, but the women around them are too "dramatic" and don't know how to cherish them. In fact, they can't help but misunderstand the other party's attitude. It's right for women to be dramatic, because they will only be overly emotional about things they care about. In addition, it is not only women who need a sense of belonging, men also need it. It's just that the sense of belonging they need is different, so men will work hard according to their own standards, and think that sufficient material conditions mean the greatest sense of belonging. Generally speaking, men protect women, and providing material resources for the other party means the greatest security and sense of belonging, so I personally feel that it is reasonable and there is nothing wrong. But the key point is that material things can bring a certain comfort to life, while women need more of a spiritual sense of belonging. Do men feel this? Women are naturally sensitive. Even a smart and capable working woman in the outside world has a soft girl hidden in her heart. When she feels helpless and needs support, the person she loves will always be by her side. When she suddenly feels confused and anxious and makes a phone call, the man in her heart will answer the call immediately without any unnecessary excuses such as he didn't hear her or was out of battery. Even if you don't have the ability to offer suggestions to turn the situation around, that warm embrace is the harbor she needs most.

2. There is a sense of belonging called: You understand her suffering

Both men and women have different pressures and worries. When a woman has an attitude, a man will not only think about his own emotions. When a woman expresses her grievances, he will not accept the educational words of a father, or the guidance and comments of a principal. Instead, he will listen carefully and empathize with her emotions. You can understand her suffering, her pain, her grievances, and her helplessness, and you will see and remember her difficulties. Sometimes women are a little delicate. Once they feel aggrieved, they will immediately find their closest people to complain and seek comfort. However, if men always respond to her many descriptions with fair judgment, their hearts will surely increase the feeling of aggrieved and unhappy.

Women also like to share their happy things with their loved ones. When they run to the boy happily and chatter non-stop like a lark, but the boy has no expression on his face, and just says "yes", "ah", "oh", "yes", and other perfunctory dialogues. Then the loss in their hearts is unspeakable, or they simply turn a blind eye and feel that they have had a hard day and need a quiet rest. Then the woman feels like a cold shower at this time, and gradually, of course, she needs a long period of quiet rest. When a little disagreement or conflict occurs, there is no positive attitude of submission and problem-solving, and the relationship between the two parties is always treated coldly. When both parties adopt the same approach, they are unknowingly in a state of general attack. After a while, the relationship becomes cold, and the relationship disappears. When you recall the past again, you may not even remember why the conflict occurred, and you can't see when the relationship disappeared. Good emotions require good communication. The expression of one person's effort is a video recorder, and two people's effort is considered to be communicating emotions.

A woman's heart is not hurt in one or two days, and a woman's mentality will not turn cold after one or two injuries. It is because of the injuries accumulated by the trivial things that men feel indifferent to too much that are created. What's more important is not to impose what you think on the other party, but to give the other party what they really need, so that she can be full of a sense of belonging and expectation for your relationship, and what a woman needs is to understand her pain and suffering, and to understand her helplessness and frustration.

3. There is a sense of belonging called - being honest with each other, sex first and love later

This is an era that values ​​private information. Appropriate space is fine, but if too many passwords are set in emotional relationships, there may be a sense of strangeness and being avoided. It is said that women tend to be jealous, lose their temper, and have wild thoughts. When you only reveal your password to her and allow her to browse it at will, and share everything with her at the first time, then how can she have time to guess and have wild thoughts? Sometimes you have already enjoyed a good time together, and just because of some unintentional little behaviors of men, they will cause her to have all kinds of fantasies. Sometimes a marriage relationship needs some giving space. Such a little behavior can make her feel that you really treat her as your own family, your own family who does not need a password! It is respect, trust, and weight in the man's heart. A woman's sense of belonging means that she is always the only one who is irreplaceable, a warm and stable experience of being together. No matter how the situation changes, no matter how each other experiences hardships and trials, she is sure that he will always be there waiting for her and she will never change.