I don't want to have a married life with my husband

Whether the sex life is harmonious often affects whether the emotional intimacy between lovers is close. Men's sexual needs emerge at a younger age than women, concentrated in their puberty period in their teens and twenties, while women's desire for sex basically begins after the age of thirty. This is the difference between men and women. Many men have the distress that their female partners are unwilling to have sex. What is the reason for this?

Marital life is a good lubricant for the relationship between husband and wife, so a good marriage cannot be separated from marital life. But the reality is that women are more likely to become indifferent to sex than men, which makes men very distressed. On the one hand, the physiological differences between men and women can lead to disharmony in the lives of couples, which can cause some women to not enjoy sex because they do not experience the pleasure of sex. On the other hand, external reasons and psychological factors can also lead to rejection behavior. Let’s take a closer look at the reasons that influence this!

Psychological trauma

If a woman has suffered corresponding sexual trauma in the past, even in childhood, then there will be a shadow of sex in her heart. In this case, they are extremely resistant to sex, and they will deliberately hide this painful experience, or even selectively forget it. However, there is still a fear in the subconscious mind that prevents people from getting involved in sexual issues.

Insecurity about body

Some women are not confident about their bodies and think that once the other party sees their real body instead of the carefully groomed one, they will no longer love them. For example, if a woman feels that her breasts are small, she will avoid showing her breasts to the other party, which shows that she is resisting sexual intercourse.

If a woman has a vengeful mentality, she will also hate sex. If a relationship or marriage fails, or if a woman is forced to be with the other person under pressure from her family or has been deceived, she will develop a revengeful mentality towards men and show resistance to sex.

Lack of good sexual experience

If the woman herself has a prejudice against sexual intercourse with her husband and wife, and thinks it is a task rather than a genuine enjoyment; and at the same time, her lack of sexual knowledge and skills leads to her sexual intercourse never reaching orgasm, but only feelings of pain and boredom, then sexual intercourse will be completely boring and naturally unpleasant.

Sexual indifference

Some women secrete less dopamine due to hormones in their bodies and have low sexual interest. This sexual apathy can be said to be caused by the combined influence of genetics and the acquired environment.

Social factors

Influenced by social culture since childhood, I believe that sexual life is shameful and that women who like sex are shameful and will be criticized by the outside world. Under the influence of this social culture, women suppress their sexual interests for a long time, dare not express them, and ignore their sexual feelings, which may lead to sexual frigidity.

Many couples have rough sex. To put it bluntly, one partner does not want to have sex, but the other partner forces or uses force to have sex with him or her. For the "abuser", their sexual desire can be satisfied and they can vent it well, but it is different for the "victim". Making love requires psychological and emotional support. Not wanting to make love is obviously rejecting it. How can you be happy if you force yourself to do something you hate? Most wives who are subjected to such behavior only have one feeling: pain!

After this violent intercourse, the "victim" wife was completely disappointed with married life because it only brought her pain and reluctance. This negative mentality often leads to a decline in sex life. In fact, women do not reject sexual life, but they do not want to be forced or hurt. This kind of hurt is psychological and affects their dignity.

It is disrespectful for a husband to violate his wife recklessly without considering her feelings. This behavior only means that men use women as tools for sexual gratification. There is a lack of emotional communication, only physical gratification. A loveless life for a couple is not love, it's just venting. Women are emotional animals. They will not give their bodies without feelings, and men's rudeness will only disgust them. Therefore, if a man wants to have sex, he must first get the woman's consent.

In fact, having sex after getting the woman's permission is a kind of sexual etiquette. It not only makes women feel the respect and love of men, but also eliminates the sexual barriers between the two. If the woman is indeed affected by some reasons and does not want to have sex temporarily, it is best to help her solve the problem before expressing her desire for sex.