Women are so "resistant" to men before they get married

There is a group of people who are afraid of marriage in today's society. They are afraid of marriage and don't want to get married. Have you ever felt anxious and uneasy before marriage and didn't want to get married? Marriage is supposed to be a happy moment, so why do we have this kind of psychological emotion? Is it psychological? Let’s understand the psychological reasons for pre-marital phobia.

Four psychological factors that cause women to be anxious before marriage

1. Rebellious psychology. It is one of the manifestations of pre-marital anxiety. Marriage is an agreement between husband and wife, and it also has constraints. Usually, men desire a stable marriage life, but they are also worried about this constraint. Compared with women, men desire freedom more in their hearts. Although he does not have to do anything specific, when this freedom is threatened, the rebellious psychology will come into play.

2. Fear. The last stage before marriage is perhaps the most worthwhile period to write about. It is more delicate and complex than the moment of the wedding, with too many longings for the unknown and too much relief from the past.

3. Psychological problems. Feelings of tension, anxiety, and fear often trouble the newlyweds at this time. Those with poor psychological quality often have the idea of ​​escaping the marriage after experiencing certain adverse physical reactions. Psychological experts say that this fear reaction among newlyweds is actually a symptom of pre-marital anxiety.

4. Competitive mentality. Compare yourself to others. No matter how you look at it, the person you find is not as good as others. It's also a normal psychology. But it still means that you are not ready to get married.

Five ways to relieve women's pre-marital anxiety

Premarital anxiety is a problem that many women will encounter. This situation is mostly caused by their own inability to adjust themselves internally, but women should not ignore it, because premarital anxiety will also bring obstacles to married life, so you must pay attention to adjustment.

1. Before deciding to get married, it is best to analyze the situation of both parties more objectively. Such as personality, work, family status of both parties, etc., you should be clear about each other's strengths and weaknesses, as well as what you want, so as to avoid regretting after marriage by discovering many "new characteristics" in the other person.

2. Relax. Although marriage is very sacred, don't put too much pressure on yourself because of getting married. In addition to seeking help from a psychologist, you can also relieve stress by taking a bath, listening to relaxing music, practicing yoga, etc.

3. When planning your wedding, you may want to make a list of things that need to be prepared before the wedding and divide the work between the two parties.

4. During this extraordinary period before the wedding, you should communicate more with good friends and family to gain spiritual comfort, eliminate your inner fear, and return to normal life more quickly.

5. Allow both parties sufficient time to make appropriate psychological adjustments. This includes identifying where your anxiety lies and choosing coping strategies based on the problem. You can also attend newlywed counseling lectures or read books on this topic, learn some specific life skills, and communicate more with your fiancé, especially about the arrangements and plans for married life. When anxiety arises, your emotional state can only change if you take steps to cope with and change it, rather than just wallowing in worry and helplessness.

Although pre-marital anxiety is common, we cannot take it lightly, because as a mental health problem, it may indeed threaten your marriage to a certain extent. Therefore, married women must pay attention to psychological adjustment and get rid of pre-marital anxiety.