What are the dangers of beating children?

We all know that taking care of a baby is not easy. We not only have to take care of the baby's diet and daily life, but also help the baby form some personality traits. However, in the process of taking care of the baby, we must pay attention to certain methods and ways. However, many babies are relatively young and may be disobedient. However, many parents will use beating and scolding to educate their babies. In fact, this approach is very wrong and will cause certain effects and harm to the baby. Let's take a look at the dangers of beating children.

What are the dangers of beating children?

1. Physical Trauma

The strength of an adult is far greater than what a child can bear.

When some parents are angry, they just raise their hands and hit their children. Some even grab brooms, branches, rulers and other tools nearby to hit their children. If the child admits his mistake with a good attitude, then it's fine. But if the child is "stubborn", then it is likely that the more you beat him, the angrier he will get, and the angrier he gets, the more you beat him, until he loses his mind and cannot control himself. Many family tragedies are caused in this way. Most parents who spank their children are more rational. They believe that children need to be spanked eventually, but the head should not be hit. It is okay to spank the buttocks because the flesh on the buttocks is thick and cannot be damaged. In fact, the buttocks can still be "broken" - in mild cases, the child will have subcutaneous hematoma and nerve damage; in severe cases, the internal organs (such as the kidneys in the waist) may be affected or shock may be caused due to extensive bleeding. You know, a child's body is very delicate, how can it withstand the palms and fists of adults?

2. Psychological Trauma

A young child's nervous system is very fragile. A rude attitude, beatings, scolding or intimidation will cause him to become extremely nervous, fearful, and even cause psychological disorders.

1. Physical discomfort: Some children experience mental stimulation and manifest themselves as physical discomfort. For example, a child suddenly develops a fever or catches a cold (more commonly caused by fright). Some children will vomit and complain of stomach pain, while others will suffer from loss of appetite, indigestion or even diarrhea.

2. Sense of abandonment: Some parents often use words like “I don’t want you anymore, I’ll just throw you away!” when beating, scolding or threatening their children. Don’t underestimate these unintentional angry words, as they may leave deep trauma to the child’s heart. A 3-year-old child clung to his grandmother and refused to leave. The grandmother asked, "What's wrong? Why don't you let grandma do things?" The child cried and said, "Grandma, you want me. I am not my parents' child. I was picked up." The grandmother said, "Nonsense! How can you say you were picked up?" The child actually said, "Xiaohong's mother didn't beat Xiaohong. She said she was her own baby. My mother beat me and said she didn't want me anymore."

3. Fear: A child cries loudly and becomes nervous every night. He often hugs adults tightly, breathes rapidly, and has a frightened expression on his face. It turned out that his father scared him, saying, "Go ahead and make a fuss. When it gets dark, there will be a monster and let the monster take you away!" At first the child made a fuss, but the father pretended to be a monster and scared the child so much that he immediately became obedient. But since then, the child has suffered from obvious psychological problems. For children under 3 years old, their neurological development is not yet complete, and intimidation or rude attitudes can cause them to have night terrors, excessive tension and fear.

4. Self-abandonment: Even if a child is under 3 years old, if he is often scolded or beaten, he may feel that he is “incompetent” and give up on himself. They could have done something well, but chose not to do it or simply sabotage it. These children may also show indifference and act timidly.

5. Strong rebellious psychology: It is not difficult to find that children who are often beaten are more "stubborn". They refuse to do what their parents ask them to do, and may "refuse to surrender" even when being beaten. Some people think that children are beaten because they are too stubborn. In fact, when they are beaten, even though they are just small children, they will not accept the beating. The resistance caused by this dissatisfaction will be expressed in the form of stubbornness.

6. Violence: Children who are often beaten will imitate their parents and beat others. The more violently their parents beat them, the more violent the child will be towards other children.

7. Lying behavior: After being beaten, children may be temporarily suppressed, but because they are afraid of being beaten, they will gradually not dare to tell the truth to their parents, or they will find excuses to avoid being beaten. Over time, they will develop the bad habit of lying and dishonesty.

8. Hatred: For children under 3 years old, they are very attached to their parents and generally do not develop hatred. However, if parents always abuse their children, the children will gradually become emotionally alienated from their parents and may develop hatred for their parents in the future.

The above is an introduction to the dangers of beating children. I hope that after understanding it, it will be of some help to many parents. We know that we must master the correct methods and ways to educate children. We cannot educate them by beating or scolding. This will have a certain impact on the child’s personality and character traits, so parents must pay great attention to it.