Ex-boyfriend's breakup compensation: send her to do "hymen repair"

Recently, I saw a popular science video like this on Station B:

A girl in her early 20s was cheated out of her first time by her ex-boyfriend

Later, I met a good guy on a blind date, but he clearly required that I must be a virgin.

Because of the other party's conditions, the girl was taken to a local hospital by her family for hymen repair + vaginal tightening surgery.

In the end, due to various reasons such as the betrothal gift, the two broke up.

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Afterwards, the girl went out to work and made a new boyfriend.

When life merges, I can't get in at all. It's so painful that I want to die.

I went to the hospital for a checkup and found that the scar from the surgery had grown and the entire vaginal opening was almost blocked.

As a last resort, the girl had to undergo surgery again

On the one hand, I feel sorry for the girl's difficult experience, and on the other hand, I am shocked: it's 2021, and the spring breeze of reform is blowing everywhere, so why are there still so many people whose thoughts are left behind in feudal society?

A quick search on the Internet shows that similar incidents are everywhere in real life:

After the wedding ceremony, the girl was found not to be a virgin and then broke off the marriage. She was then taken by her family for surgery.

The young girl was taken to the hospital by her mother to undergo surgery to "make up for her lack of virginity";

The ex-boyfriend paid for the girl to have the surgery just to give her "compensation".

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Girls, their families, boyfriends... all have too many misunderstandings and myths about this membrane.

In addition, internet celebrities and medical beauty institutions have been promoting private parts plastic surgery, advocating white, thin, pink, tender and small aesthetics, etc. While girls are being PUA'd by body anxiety, they are also passively caught in private parts anxiety.

But in the eyes of professional doctors, this kind of surgery is asking for trouble.

Many people mistakenly believe that the hymen is a complete, airtight membrane that will only rupture and bleed during the first penetrative sexual intercourse.

However, in reality, the hymen is naturally "broken".

Strictly speaking, the hymen is not a membrane, but a circle of connective tissue located at the vaginal opening with a hole in the middle, scientifically known as the vaginal valve.

When a girl is a little girl, the vagina is narrower and the hymen is relatively thick. At this time, the hymen protects the cervix and prevents the uterus from bacterial invasion.

As you grow older, the hymen will gradually become thinner and will no longer have any function. When you reach puberty, menstrual blood will be discharged from the body through the holes in the hymen.

Some girls have no pores in their hymen, which will block menstrual blood in the body and may cause periodic lower abdominal pain. This disease is called hymen occlusion and requires a doctor to perform surgery to cut the hymen.

Normal hymen

Therefore, a hymen with a hole, or a "broken" hymen, is normal.

At the same time, some girls' hymen is very "fragile" and may rupture during strenuous physical exercise, sports training, sitting and masturbation.

Some people are very "elastic" and their hymen remains intact even after having sexual intercourse.

It can be seen that those who think that "an incomplete membrane means that the girl is not a virgin" and "there will definitely be bleeding the first time" are completely wrong!

Rumors

The bleeding that is often described in TV dramas and novels is because most brides in ancient times were teenage girls whose bodies had not yet fully developed and were easily torn, injured, and bleeding.

Don't be misled by TV dramas.

The so-called hymen repair surgery is naturally not to sew the damaged hymen back into a closed membrane.

Instead, the ruptured hymen stump is sutured again. If the rupture is serious, the doctor will take the vaginal mucosa and recreate a hymen. The overall operation is relatively simple.

But no matter how simple it is, many doctors believe that hymen repair surgery is completely unnecessary!

Because for adult women, the hymen has no physiological function and its rupture will not lead to medical consequences.

However, surgery has risks, especially infection. Due to the special surgical site, it is easily contaminated by vaginal secretions, urine, feces, etc., and the risk of postoperative infection is relatively high.

At the same time, because many regular hospitals require real-name consultation + surgery, some girls will choose private clinics or black clinics. Their non-standard operations may lead to higher infection rates and may also induce adnexitis, cervicitis, etc., leading to infertility.

It is even possible that the situation at the beginning of the article will occur, where the girl is deceived into undergoing "hymen repair surgery + vaginal tightening surgery".

But will you definitely become a “complete” person after having the surgery?

It's not necessarily true, because even if it is repaired, "spotting" will not occur 100%. This is related to the distribution of blood vessels on the hymen itself.

Girls, you must look at hymen repair surgery scientifically and rationally, especially those who are in a hurry. Don't blindly believe the promises in advertisements such as "100% success" and "Only ** yuan can give you a happy life."

A happy life is never defined by a membrane.

Those who truly love you will not stop loving you just because you are not a virgin, but those who do not love you will use this "membrane" to measure your value.