My girlfriend said she was afraid to be with me. What does it mean? How can I eliminate my girlfriend's fear of me?

We all know that when a boyfriend and girlfriend are together, they are likely to encounter various problems. After some girls get along with their boyfriends, they will feel a little bit of fear in their hearts, that is, they feel insecure when they are with their boyfriends. So what does it mean when a girlfriend says she feels afraid to be with me? Let's take a closer look!

What does it mean when my girlfriend says she is afraid of being with me?

Fear is insecurity, which is a kind of fear, loneliness, disappointment, and danger that people encounter or imagine in their hearts. If your girlfriend says she has a fear, it means that she doesn't feel safe with you, or that you don't make her feel safe and satisfied.

This means that you make your girlfriend feel insecure! She is even afraid of you. Think about what you have said in front of her? What have you done? What is your attitude towards her? Have you ever been mean to her? Have you ever scolded or hit her? Or have you ever done something irrational to others in front of your girlfriend? Or have you ever fought with others? In short, you scared her! That's why she said she felt scared when she was with you! Reflect on yourself!

My girlfriend is afraid of me.

When a girl is with someone she likes, she naturally hopes that you will care for her and protect her from harm, and that she will feel safe. If she says this with fear, it may be that there is a problem when you are together, and your actions have disappointed, upset, or failed to meet her expectations, which has made her nervous, depressed, and feel lost.

For example, at night, you are chatting with each other and you are both alone, and you want to "scare" or "tease" her, so you send her a scary video. She may not pay attention and click on it, and suddenly she is scared by the scene, which makes her feel like she has a heart attack. At this time, you think it's funny, but she doesn't think so. After all, she is a girl, and it is normal for her to be timid. If you scare her like this, she will think you are boring and scary.

For example, when your girlfriend quarrels with others, you not only do not help her but just stand by and watch, or when someone hits your girlfriend, you just say something tactfully and let the matter go, which makes her feel helpless, wronged and lonely. She thinks that a real man should stand up and protect his lover.

Maybe these examples have never happened, or you have never done the same thing, then it is just that there is some distance between you. Or there is no common language, you may not understand what others think, or feel. When she is troubled by trivial matters, have you comforted her? When she is not doing well at work, have you given her a hug? When she is arguing with you, have you been tolerant? When she is in a bad mood, have you made her happy? When she is alone, have you been by her side? When everything comes, have you really cared for her?

Girls are very sensitive about their appearance and don't want to express many things, but as a man, you should understand her and care about her. When she is happy, you should be happy with her, and when she is sad, you should comfort her, make her happy, and make her feel warm.

Show more care and love to cherish the one you have now. Let her feel warm and safe, no longer afraid and lonely!

How to give your girlfriend a sense of security

First of all, all girls have something in common. As long as you treat her well, pamper her, and love her, she will feel very happy and satisfied. Moreover, most girls pay attention to details:

1. Reply promptly when someone sends you a message or calls you

If you can't reply in time, you should explain it in time. Don't be perfunctory. Don't let her guess. Most girls say, "It's nothing, it doesn't matter, I don't care." In fact, they all say "It does matter, it doesn't matter." They will have a little expectation in their hearts, hoping that you can still do something when they say it doesn't matter. Then they will feel very happy.

2. Don’t forget important festivals

Girls actually like to celebrate festivals because festivals are different from ordinary days. They may prefer this unique feeling and sense of ceremony. If you don’t know what to give, just give flowers or chocolates. Girls are actually easily moved by small details.

3. Protect her at the critical moment

What is a critical moment? On a small scale, for example, if she has a stomachache during her period, you have to be considerate of her and don't be too squeamish, because some girls really do feel pain. On a big scale, if she's been wronged or bullied, comfort her and fight back for her if you can.

Secondly, girls have common characteristics, but each girl's little thoughts are slightly different, so you have to be careful. For example, if she is suddenly very happy, think about whether you have done something that won her heart, it may be a very small thing.

Finally, just pretend to be weak appropriately and let her know that you really need her.

If you think these are troublesome, it means you haven’t met someone who you don’t find troublesome!