What should I do if my colleagues are unfriendly to me? How can new employees integrate into the old employees?

The workplace is actually a small society. Everyone meets each other because of work and the company. This is actually a kind of fate. Since the workplace is a small society, it is inevitable to meet all kinds of people. Generally speaking, many colleagues are easy to get along with, and there are only a few individual difficulties. What should I do if I inevitably encounter a colleague who is unfriendly to me?

What should I do if my colleague is unfriendly to me?

Regarding the issue of unfriendliness, it is recommended that you first consider the reasons and solutions to the problem. First, think about all the intersections between you and the other party. What have you done to harm the other party's interests in the intersections? Often, you have seriously harmed the interests of others without knowing it.

Secondly, if you have done nothing to harm the interests of your colleagues, you should also understand that everyone is pursuing their own interests. If they are unfriendly to you, cause you trouble, make you inattentive at work, or become emotional, and your image deteriorates, then it is beneficial to your colleagues.

Third, you need to have positive energy. You need to manage your emotions well and don’t take unfriendly attitudes to heart. If unfriendly attitudes have no impact on you, they will not harm your interests, or will harm your interests less.

Finally, generally speaking, aggressive colleagues in the workplace are usually people with backgrounds. When personal management cannot eliminate them in a short period of time, we must remember that when you are under someone’s roof, you have to bow your head.

How do newcomers integrate into the old staff?

In the process of getting along with old colleagues, you must be humble but not inferior. You need to be polite and modest when asking questions, but don't be submissive. Try to listen. You must listen more in the early stage. After all, in an unfamiliar environment, don't get involved when others discuss right and wrong. You don't know the situation yourself, so don't talk nonsense. Moreover, after getting familiar with each other, you must remember not to talk about other people's right and wrong. The first task is to do your job well, get into the working state as soon as possible, and don't hold everyone back. Then try to smile when communicating with everyone. If the people around you are more introverted colleagues, try to be more proactive. If there are more extroverted colleagues, listen more to others and join in when they ask you. Nowadays, workplace communication is still relatively easy, not as complicated as imagined, especially for newcomers in the workplace, don't be timid. If you are in a company with complicated interpersonal relationships, you need to cultivate some emotional intelligence.

Why can't you be friends with your coworkers?

During work, most colleagues usually discuss work, and after get off work, they go back to their own homes, as if they have no contact with each other or are not involved with each other. If this goes on for a long time, there will be no real communication and exchange, and they will only think of the relationship as colleagues, but not think of developing into friends.

In addition, colleagues not only have cooperative relationships at work, but also competitive relationships. In many companies and units, there is fierce competition among colleagues. For performance, promotion, and future development, many people imitate each other in their hearts, fearing that someone is better and more capable than themselves. Therefore, some people with strong abilities are excluded by some colleagues, and even attacked by rumors from others, so that they cannot get management positions despite their strong abilities. On the other hand, some people who are not capable but are good at speaking and flattering are promoted faster. The impact of this is that colleagues lose trust and fairness. A small number of people have ruined the workplace environment of a company or unit.

It is rare for colleagues to become friends, unless they already knew each other before so that they can still have feelings for each other. Otherwise, it is better to just be colleagues.

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In the business world, harmony brings wealth, and the same is true in the workplace. Being kind to others may not necessarily bring rewards, but being mean to others will bring bad consequences immediately. If you understand this principle, you don’t have to care about those colleagues who are unkind and unfriendly to you. Let them do their own thing. As long as it does not hurt your bottom line, you can give in to everything. Tolerating anger for a moment will save you from worry for a hundred days. All of this is naturally seen by the leaders and others.