How to correctly guide girls to fall in love early

We can't blindly blame our daughters and classmates for falling in love when we find them. Because children are more rebellious at this stage, if you stop them in a very rude way, it may cause more trouble. At this time, we can have a detailed talk with the children, and then slowly comfort them.

1. What should parents do when their children fall in love prematurely?

01. Treat everything as normal

Sociologist Maslow's "hierarchy of needs theory" of interpersonal relationship theory explains the needs of adolescent men and women to get along with each other from three aspects: During puberty, adolescents have the need for love and trust, and they have the need to care for, understand and touch friends of the opposite sex in terms of "cognitive ability", "physiological" and "psychological state". As parents, we must first treat this matter objectively. This is a normal situation and there is no need to worry too much. Huang Lei mentioned the issue of students dating in an interview before. She said: "It's normal for my daughter to date at the age of 15. Puberty is innocent and it's the most natural thing in a person. I think it's happy. Dating is dating. There is no such thing as students dating. This term is very stupid."

There is actually no need to be angry about children's premature love. Every adult also goes through the same period at a certain age, with ignorant thoughts. Therefore, there is no need to worry too much and we need to treat it objectively. In short, once a child falls in love early, as parents, do not just scold or abuse them, so as not to annoy the child and make him or her rebellious. Children in the process of personality formation need positive emotions in particular, and parents should give them guidance in a gentle manner rather than dealing with them negatively.

02. Pay attention to privacy protection

Respect their privacy and do not open their letters or read their notes. We must strengthen communication, make friends with them often, and be a reliable friend of the children. Many parents peek at their children's mobile phones and notes when their children are suspected of having a love relationship. This behavior usually causes strong dissatisfaction in the children, makes them lose respect for them, and even hurts their vanity, which always makes them more rebellious and may lead them to take the wrong path. Therefore, parents must always pay attention to their children's privacy. If they want to understand their daily life, they should take good care of them and talk to them more. Only when children learn to let down their guard will they open up to their parents and tell them their true thoughts.

03. Educate your children more

During this period, parents can educate their children more, chat with them more, and listen carefully to their views on "students falling in love". Don't deliberately "criticize", but educate your children to express their own ideas, and treat them with a calm attitude. In fact, the more open and straightforward parents talk to their children about puberty, the more successfully they can help their children get rid of the novelty of "student love".