Mother often loses temper with her child

It is said that family relationships have a great influence on children. The child's personality is closely related to the relationship between the parents and the family environment, so the family environment is very important to the child's growth. Some parents have a more impatient temper due to their personality and are prone to losing their temper, but losing temper with children for a long time is definitely not good for the children's psychological development. So what impact does it have on children when mothers often lose their temper?

1. Impact on parent-child relationship

If a mother loses her temper with her child for a long time, it may affect the quality of the parent-child relationship between the mother and the child, cause the child to form a negative self-concept, and even affect the child's ability to establish close relationships and interpersonal skills with others in the future. From the perspective of secure attachment, children generally form a secure and close attachment relationship with their mothers. Mother is a secure base and safe haven for her child. A mother’s intimate care will make the child feel that the mother is trustworthy and reliable, and that he or she is valuable and lovable. However, if a mother often loses her temper with her child, this will contradict her usual love for the child. This inconsistency on the part of the mother causes the child to question the close relationship with the mother, leading to insecure attachment and negative self-concept.

2. Children are easy to imitate

If a mother loses her temper frequently and casually, her children will also learn and imitate this poor problem-solving method. The most effective way for young children to learn is to observe and imitate. If the mother is prone to temper tantrums, the child will learn by imitation and will gradually become prone to temper tantrums in the future. He will use this method to solve problems and conflicts in life and work, and develop bad personality traits.

3. Note

A person who is in a state of tension for a long time is prone to develop a kind of tension, just like the strings on a violin that are constantly tightened until they finally break - there are too many things to do in a short period of time. Therefore, having more time for yourself, especially planning some free time, can help you be a more effective parent. For example, when you are particularly nervous and irritable, try to change your environment, move the furniture and vases; spend an hour in a cafe, or go for a walk, or practice yoga, or do anything else you want to do. Fresh air and a change of scenery can change your mood; rest and adequate nutrition will relax you, and after you have recharged your batteries, you will be able to pay peaceful attention to your children.