Will the pain last long the first time?

Because women have a hymen, they will feel pain when the hymen ruptures during their first sexual intercourse. The private parts of women are very sensitive. For girls who have not experienced the world but often hear discussions about this, they will definitely be very worried that they will not be able to bear it or that the pain will last too long. So, will the pain last long the first time?

First, let me give you an interesting example: everyone has generally accepted that there is no bleeding during the first night. That is to say, many people know that the hymen is just a thin membrane that can be easily ruptured during strenuous exercise, and in many cases it happens without being noticed.

In other words, it has been proven that the rupture of this membrane does not cause pain, at least not obvious pain, otherwise how could women not notice it? But why do people accept the idea that there is no bleeding during the first night, but do not accept the idea that there is no pain when the hymen is ruptured?

The reason is very simple. People have been passing on the message that "it hurts the first time". Literature, film and television and other media also promote the pain of the first night, and associate this feeling very closely with the girl's innocence. As a result, synesthesia has been generated in people's minds: the first sexual intercourse means distortion, and pain is something that women must overcome in this ritual. Women are destined to suffer and suffer, so women must at least be cautious about their first night out of fear of pain. If the man doesn't want you anymore, then your pain and efforts will be in vain.

In this situation, no woman thinks that the first night will not be painful, and the more innocent the woman is, the more painful it will be. This shows how much you love your partner and how much you dedicate yourself to him with a noble spirit of sacrifice. Because women cannot keep their virginity 100% and can only use the pain of the first night as evidence.

This unconsciously reinforces the concept that "the feeling in the vagina during the first sexual intercourse must be painful", which has almost become a collective subconscious, leaving no doubt about it for both men and women. Men will therefore cherish women's dedication, and women will therefore demand men's loyalty.

Such an idea must have its rationale for existence, and it is a classic product of patriarchal cultural hegemony. Too many women are afraid of the action of penis inserting into the vagina because of the so-called pain. They are even very scared when they think about it, and they cannot have a normal sexual life with their spouse for many years after marriage.

The resulting public opinion of not having children, divorce tragedies, guilt towards their husbands, etc., have caused them long-term psychological pressure and led to a series of psychological and/or physiological problems, such as anxiety, depression, gynecological inflammation, autoimmune diseases, skin diseases, etc.

Therefore, in order to eliminate this misconception, women’s sexual rights must be fundamentally liberated, allowing them to enjoy the same rights as men and respect each other with men. In this way, women will not feel that they have suffered a loss, made sacrifices, or been bullied because of having voluntary sex. At the same time, the explanation of the hymen in sex education must be in place.

The hymen is a natural physiological barrier of the vagina and can play a certain role in protecting the vaginal environment of young girls. However, this protective effect is not important because rupture does not increase the risk of vaginal infection.

Therefore, the hymen is actually just a remnant of the genetic evolution process. Many people are born with very shallow hymen traces. As the body grows and develops, this membrane is slowly stretched and many holes appear. Some holes fuse together to form large holes that allow menstrual blood to pass through. When the holes are very large, the hymen can basically no longer be seen.