Papapa will hurt the first time

In many people's impressions, because a virgin has a hymen, when a man enters, the hymen will be torn, causing pain. It is a consensus among most people that papapa will be painful the first time, but in fact, women do not always feel intense pain the first time. Some women don't even feel it very obviously, and most of the time it is caused by psychological reasons. Let’s take a look at the relevant introduction about why papapa will hurt for the first time.

How painful is it for women during their first night?

In other words, facts have proven that when this membrane ruptures, it does not cause pain, at least not obvious pain. Otherwise, how could women not notice it? But why do people accept the idea that there is no bleeding during the first night, but do not accept the idea that there is no pain when the hymen is ruptured?

The reason is very simple, people have been passing on the saying "it hurts the first time", literature, film and television and other media also publicize the pain of the first night, and associate this feeling very closely with the girl's innocence, so that synesthesia has been generated in people's minds: the first sexual intercourse means distortion, pain is something that women must overcome in this ritual, women are destined to suffer, so women must at least be cautious about their first night out of fear of pain. If the man doesn't want you anymore, all your pain will be in vain! It was all in vain!

In this situation, no woman thinks that the first night will not be painful, and the more innocent the girl is, the more painful it will be. This shows how much you love your partner and how much you dedicate yourself to him with a noble spirit of sacrifice. Because women cannot completely avoid bleeding during their virginity, they can only use the pain during their virginity as evidence. This unconsciously reinforces the concept that "the feeling in the vagina during first intercourse must be painful", which has almost become a collective subconscious, leaving no doubt about it for both men and women. Men will cherish women's dedication because of this, and women will demand men's loyalty because of this.

Such an idea must have its rationale for existence, and it is a classic product of patriarchal cultural hegemony. Too many women are afraid of the action of penis inserting into the vagina because of the so-called pain. They are even very scared when they think about it, and they cannot have a normal married life for many years after marriage. The resulting public opinion of not having children, divorce tragedies, guilt towards their husbands, etc., have caused them long-term psychological pressure and led to a series of psychological and/or physiological problems, such as anxiety, depression, gynecological inflammation, autoimmune diseases, skin diseases, etc.

Therefore, in order to eliminate this wrong concept, women's sexual rights must be fundamentally liberated, so that they can enjoy the same rights as men and respect each other with men. In this way, women will not feel disadvantaged, paid, or bullied because of voluntary sexual intercourse. At the same time, the explanation of the hymen in sex education must also be in place.

The hymen is a natural physiological barrier of the vagina and can play a certain role in protecting the vaginal environment of young girls. However, this protective role is not important because rupture does not increase the risk of vaginal infection.

Therefore, the hymen is actually just a remnant of the genetic evolution process. Many people are born with very shallow hymen traces. As the body grows and develops, this membrane is slowly stretched and many holes appear. Some holes fuse together to form large holes that allow menstrual blood to pass through. When the holes are very large, the hymen can basically no longer be seen.

Finally, let me explain why most women say "it hurts the first time". In a natural state, the front and back walls of the vagina fit very well. When a foreign object is inserted into the vagina for the first time, the vaginal mucosa is subjected to unprecedented fresh stimulation, and our brain must recognize this new sense of touch. If we recognize this new feeling as touch, a feeling of being stretched, or a feeling of fullness, we will not have an emotional response of fear.