Experts reveal: The most satisfying sex life for women

In sex, men are willing to be "long-distance champions", and hardness and durability become the key to their display of charm. "Men often ask me how long is the appropriate duration for sexual intercourse. In fact, sex is not just a physical activity." Shang Xuejun, deputy chief physician of the Department of Andrology at the Nanjing Military Region General Hospital, said that complete sexual intercourse includes foreplay, actual intercourse (starting from the contact of sexual organs) and afterplay. Among them, actual intercourse has attracted much attention because it is "real". "If the actual sex time is too short, such as only one or two minutes, it is obviously difficult for the couple to be satisfied, but the longer the better is not necessarily the case."

If actual sex lasts too long, on the one hand, both husband and wife will be exhausted physically and mentally, and they will need a longer recovery time after sex; on the other hand, women's vaginal secretions that act as a lubricant during sex are limited, and if it lasts too long, the vagina will become dry and easily abraded.

Behrend College in Pennsylvania, USA, once conducted a survey of thousands of volunteers and finally found that 7 to 13 minutes is the "golden time" for substantive communication. This is also the most comprehensive and objective survey ever conducted in the field of sexology.

It is important to remember that the purpose of sex is to bring pleasure to both parties. When a couple has sex in a happy mood, they often feel that "happy times are always so short", and there is no need to calculate "how long it takes".

When men deliberately delay, their original intention is nothing more than to give women more pleasure. Experts suggest that it is better to "explore" and understand your partner's sexual sensitive areas more, and put more effort into foreplay, providing rich, gentle and appropriate stimulation to fully arouse the woman's "resonance" to increase her chances of reaching orgasm, which is far more effective than the monotonous mechanical movements during actual intercourse. Women themselves should also communicate more with their partners to let them know that time is not the key factor in determining the quality of sex.