How does your husband feel about sex after giving birth?

During the first sexual intercourse with my husband after I gave birth, even though my body had not recovered yet, my husband kept clamoring for sex all day long. Just after the safe period of menstruation, my husband kept clamoring for sex. But the baby was crying and making a fuss, and there was no one to help take care of him in the broad daylight. I was almost going crazy and had absolutely no interest in taking care of him. But sometimes I have to care about my husband's feelings, so I'll just make do with it, but it's really to achieve the goal, without any happiness, just to end it early. How do you feel about your husband when you have sex for the first time after giving birth?

How does it feel to have sex with your husband for the first time after giving birth?

For many couples, the first sexual intercourse after the birth of a child is often not as harmonious as imagined, and they will encounter various unexpected situations. In order not to leave psychological trauma to the wife and to ensure harmony between the couple in the future, the father should pay more attention to the following 4 aspects.

Bao Mama's granddaughter had just given birth to a baby three months ago and she "won a prize" again! When she was having an abortion, her husband was beside her and she was crying with heartache. Talking about this matter, it was all the couple's fault for being too careless. They were eager to have sex after the birth of the child and did not take any contraceptive measures. Bao's mother, Sun, said that the unexpected loss of the prize not only affected her breastfeeding, but also put her under great mental pressure. Suddenly, she had the idea of ​​not wanting to have sex from then on, and she was very worried that it would affect the harmony between the couple in the future.

Regarding postpartum sex life, these four aspects need more attention

1. Contraceptive measures, contraceptive measures, do not ignore

During postpartum sexual intercourse, if the couple does not use any contraceptive methods, the probability of "winning" again is high. Moreover, if an accidental pregnancy occurs, the harm suffered by women will be great. Physically, the mother is still in the recovery period after giving birth. If she gets pregnant unexpectedly at this time, whether the baby is born or needs to be aborted, it will cause great harm to the body. It is not long since the birth of the baby, and the mother's psychological state is still relatively sensitive. If the baby is unexpectedly conceived at this time, the psychological impact on the mother may be great, leaving her with psychological trauma, causing her to be afraid of having sex in the future, or becoming more and more depressed and prone to depression.

2. Don’t look down on your wife.

After giving birth, mothers have changed their body shape, and their private parts or abdominal wounds are still recovering from surgery. They are prone to psychological anxiety, lack of self-confidence, and are more sensitive at this time. If the husband shows slight disdain or dissatisfaction in his words or small facial expressions or gestures, the mother may be under great mental stress. In more serious cases, it may even leave psychological trauma, causing the mother to have more lack of self-confidence, wild thoughts, depression and other negative emotions. Affect the harmony of the couple’s sexual life in the future.

3. The time of first sexual intercourse is very important

During pregnancy, couples are often worried about affecting the fetus, and they usually try their best to be patient. They should not be impatient when having sex for the first time after giving birth. They have to wait until the mother's body has recovered to a certain extent before they can start the first time.

The first time to have sex after giving birth should be after the mother has recovered 42 days and goes to the hospital for a follow-up check-up. If the physical examination shows good results, the couple can then discuss private matters between the two. If the husband asks the mother to have sex too early, it is easy for the wife to feel that her health is not valued, which will cause a resistance to the couple's sexual life, and she may often refuse her husband on such matters in the future.

4. The posture should be gentler

The first time having sex after giving birth, my wife is prone to a lot of discomfort in her body because she has just given birth to a baby. For example, there may be discomfort at the wound site, and it may be very painful and dry during intercourse. The breasts are prone to swell up due to milk and are easily compressed and cause discomfort. Because the body is in the recovery period of surgery, the mother has devoted all her energy to taking care of the newborn, and is relatively tired, many women do not have high requirements for sexual intercourse within half a year after giving birth, and the father should also understand his wife more.

During postpartum sex, the father should be more gentle in his posture to avoid squeezing his wife's breasts and to avoid hurting his wife with extreme postures. Be more understanding and considerate. Don’t show disdainful expressions or words to your wife, and don’t try to please her when she is not feeling well.