Why do women become shrews?

Before women encounter true love, they are all angels who have fallen to the earth, so fresh and beautiful. Even if they are not gentle and affectionate, they are still graceful, gentle and considerate. But once they become someone's wife or someone's mother, their faces become more fierce and violent, and they keep barking like machine guns every day. Are women fickle? Or do women have a congenital "disease" of explosiveness? In fact, such a "shrew" is mostly created slowly and inadvertently by the men around her.

Lack of the character roles that a husband should have

lazy

The popular saying in my country that men are outsiders and women are in charge of the home does not mean that women are born with responsibilities that they should do, but that women are delicate by nature and are more suitable for handling delicate tasks and can manage food, clothing, housing and life more properly and perfectly. It does not mean that a married man can just sit back and do nothing at home. In today's society, women also go out to work and make a living. It is rare that men are more easily tired than women because of their physical deficiency. When they come home, they still need to do housework and take care of their families. When she is busy, if the man just lies on the sofa, crying and laughing at the boring TV, and ignores his helpless wife, think about it, what would you feel if you were a woman? When women are busy preparing dinner, men just stay there and search around and play WeChat on their phones. After calling for a long time, they only get perfunctory responses without action. If you were a woman, how would you feel?

After marriage, men's thinking will become more and more lazy. They no longer want to pay attention to their women. They think that since they are mine, why bother to care about them or pamper them, they will never leave. Women are different. The more they care about themselves, the more they pay attention and effort to their men uncontrollably. However, the difference in concepts will make women feel more unbalanced and indescribable frustration.

Women can be hardworking, they are not afraid to work, and they are willing to make efforts. But the worst thing is that they are busy like a machine, losing the previous care and love, and getting only the expected results. The trivialities of daily life far outweigh the big things, and the small mentality of trivialities accumulates slowly in this way.

Easy on the ears

People live in the secular world with their food, clothing, shelter and transportation, and it is impossible to gain anyone's recognition. Like the grandfather and grandson riding on a donkey, no matter what you do, you will be accused and criticized by the opposite side. A wife is not a saint nor RMB that everyone likes. Her behavior is bound to be criticized or praised in different ways. Our relationship should not be determined by the extremes in the eyes of others' opinions, and our attitude towards our wife should not be determined by external influences.

In addition to external friends, the ones you come into contact with more often are the relationships with your parents-in-law. When your mother says something that she doesn't like, you will clearly take one side. When your wife argues for herself, she will only get a label of being too sentimental from you. Even the absurdity of one's own mother has become an irrefutable requirement that should be respected as long as the old man says it. At this time, women will truly realize that they are just a tool of sexual desire and a nanny at home. Their hearts will gradually grow cold, and the only answer they get is that they married the wrong person. When they reach a certain point in their mentality, it is not just a matter of complaining, but they will naturally leave.

Not coaxing women or not easy to coax women

Women are born to be delicate children, a little sensitive and a little negative. They talk a lot but just hope to get the care and love they deserve. But women are really easy to please. As long as you are willing to spend a little time and energy, they will recover quickly and even love you more than before. But some men are born stupid and not easy to please, and some do it intentionally, but no matter what the reason is, the result is the same.

When a woman tells you the truth, you only want to criticize her for your own great image. When a woman has already begun to get annoyed, you begin to look down on her for being fussy, petty, and unreasonable, and even resolutely leave her aside for cold violence. When a woman is angry, she originally wants to hear some gentle and caring words, but such behavior will only add fuel to the fire and intensify the conflict. Her mentality will completely turn into anger. At that time, she will still be righteous and justify her mistakes. Almost every woman attaches great importance to her birthday or Valentine's Day. That will be a time when she is in a dreamlike and beautiful world. When she is worried that she is disappointed and has reminded you in various ways, the man will still forget about her on the right day. Not only does he not feel guilty, but he will reply to you indifferently, saying that there is nothing you can do on this broken day, and you will live differently every day. At most, I will compensate you in 2020. What is the result? Even if women have the patience to wait until 2020, the story still repeats this "misfortune".

Women, please change your way of working. Blindly enduring will not bring you expected results; an eye for an eye, an eye for an eye self-destruction will not bring you the ultimate success. Try your best to fight for it, express your love and desire clearly, and tell it directly. If the man knows your feelings, that is, he did it on purpose, when everything is irreparable and cannot be changed, it is better to let go appropriately and give yourself a chance to be reborn than to perish together.