First time having sex, pain down there

Women who have not experienced their first time should feel afraid of the first time, because there is a hymen in the female body. When experiencing the first time, the membrane will rupture, causing great physical pain to the female body. At the same time, after the first experience, women's lower body will also have many uncomfortable reactions, among which swelling and pain below is the biggest problem. What are the reasons for women's swelling and pain after the first time?

Why do most women say "the first time hurts"?

In a natural state, the front and back walls of the vagina fit well together. When a foreign object is inserted into the vagina for the first time, the vaginal mucosa is subjected to unprecedented fresh stimulation, and our brain must recognize this new sense of touch. If we recognize this new feeling as touch, a feeling of being stretched, or a feeling of fullness, we will not have an emotional reaction of fear; if we have a preconception in our minds that the first night must be painful, then this new feeling will naturally be recognized as pain, making us fearful and afraid, because everyone is afraid of pain; if we have correct expectations for sex, then we will recognize this feeling as strong sexual stimulation and sexual sensation, which will make us sexually excited.

How to relieve the pain of a girl's first time

1. Spend more time on kissing, hugging and caressing, which is called "foreplay", to make the woman fully excited and moist. This will make the woman's vagina more and more moist, and will also reduce a lot of pain during entry.

2. If it is still dry, not exciting enough, and the vagina is not moist enough, you can use lubricant to moisten it. During the entry process, it is best for women to actively tell men about their feelings, so that two-way communication can be achieved, and the angle and amplitude of entry can be adjusted at any time to reduce pain;

3. The woman should tell her how she feels at the right time, and the man should try to move gently and with a smaller amplitude;

4. Changing positions, for example, side by side or with the woman on top, will improve the situation;

5. If the pain persists or bleeding occurs frequently after sexual intercourse, you should see a doctor to prevent disease.

During the whole process, attention should be paid to communication. Men should avoid rushing into women before they are wet enough, as this may cast a shadow on their future performance. Of course, women themselves also need to relax and relieve tension. Excessive tension can make the pain worse. You should know that although a torn hymen will cause pain, the pain is not severe. On the contrary, sometimes the cause of pain is not the tearing of the hymen, but the vaginal spasm caused by tension, or the stinging of the vaginal wall caused by the male's entry.