What to do if you have no sexual desire after giving birth?

Many women will experience a decrease in sexual desire or even become sexually apathetic after giving birth, and will not want to have sex at all. To address this issue, you must first get your husband's understanding. Don't force yourself to have sex at this time. It may be because your body has not recovered yet, or it may be because your mentality has not adjusted yet. To address the problem of decreased sexual desire after childbirth, couples can try the following methods to solve it.

What to do if you have no sexual desire after giving birth?

Whether it is a natural birth or a caesarean section, women's sexual desire will generally decrease and the frequency of sexual intercourse will also decrease significantly after giving birth, which usually lasts for 6-8 weeks. The main reason is that hormones are at work. After childbirth, women's prolactin levels increase in preparation for breastfeeding. At the same time, dopamine levels decrease, resulting in a significant decrease in sexual desire. In addition, childbirth will also cause some changes in women's bodies after childbirth, making them lack confidence in their bodies. Therefore, on the one hand, the husband should be considerate of his wife, and on the other hand, he should often praise and encourage her.

Clinically, more than half of women feel pain during their first sexual intercourse after childbirth, most of which is related to damage to the perineum during normal delivery. In order to relieve pain during sexual intercourse (Gynecology and Venereology), you must be gentle during sexual intercourse and avoid using too much force. In addition, the use of lubricants can also provide some relief. If you still feel pain, you may want to use a small amount of vaginal estrogen to increase vaginal lubrication.

The eating, drinking, defecating, urinating, sleeping, crying, etc. of a newborn baby will make the new father and mother feel uneasy, sleep poorly, feel exhausted, and their sex life will also be affected. Therefore, after having children, couples should make time to spend more time with each other to enhance their intimacy. While intimacy isn't always about sex, it's necessary to maintain sexual enthusiasm. Touching, kissing, hugging, romantic gestures, offering to do housework, etc., all help to enhance intimacy between couples. Only when intimacy is ensured can harmonious sex come naturally.

First: psychological factors

Basically, the reason why all women have not been with their husbands for a long time after giving birth is that they are psychologically averse to sexual life. Because I was worried that I was in the recovery stage after childbirth, and if I had sex, the wound would get infected. Or I was worried that my body would be weak after childbirth and I was afraid that I would not have the physical strength to cope with it, so I always refused to have sex. In fact, 42 days after delivery or 2 months later, when the lochia is completely clean and the incisions have healed, you can try to have sex. Don't have too much psychological pressure.

Second: Baby Factor

After having a baby, the time of postpartum mothers is completely out of their control. Although many families now hire confinement nannies to help take care of the children, sometimes time is really hard to control, or when they finally get a rest, they just want to rest and relax by themselves. Time and energy are out of control. Moreover, after having a baby, their figure is completely different from before. In the recently popular "Ruyi's Royal Love in the Palace", Concubine Yu was sent back to the palace by the emperor because of the stretch marks on her belly. This was undoubtedly a pain that Concubine Yu could not get out of, so fathers must give mothers more comfort and help mothers arrange their time in advance.

Third: Pelvic floor relaxation

The damage caused by pregnancy and childbirth to the body of a postpartum mother varies according to the physical condition of each mother. Some women have weak pelvic floor muscles and low hormone levels due to the large fetus and their own physical condition. They have no desire for sex after giving birth. At the same time, due to the damage caused by pregnancy and childbirth, some women experience pain during intercourse, low libido, vaginal relaxation and no feeling after sexual intercourse, which can make postpartum mothers lose confidence. Therefore, it is very important to recover the pelvic floor muscles as soon as possible.