How to be an elegant and graceful woman?

Women come in all shapes and sizes. How to be an elegant woman? First, please understand elegance. Elegance is a feeling that cannot be expressed in words, but can be appreciated from the heart. Beauty is not elegance, gentleness is not elegance, elegance is not created with money, nor is it created by expensive jewelry, clothes, or accessories. Elegance is the charming charm that a woman exudes from the inside out.

A girl is beautiful at the age of 20. Some of them, through consistent cultivation in the right soil, will have an elegant luster after the age of 30, and will be able to stay young forever, with a charm index like a surging river.

Elegant women have the following common characteristics:

1. Confidence. In 2004, I watched Hollywood's 2000 film "White House Romance", which was a campaign film for Clinton's election. I was immediately attracted by the heroine Annette Bening. This woman in the movie is so charming. Facing the President played by Michael Douglas, she exudes confidence, helping the President find himself and making it difficult for him to leave her. At first she looked like an ordinary middle-aged woman, but after more than half an hour she was absolutely radiant, thanks to her confidence. After watching it, even I, a homosexual, fell in love with her.

2. Have a pure heart. It means maintaining the ultimate values ​​of kindness, sincerity and beauty towards the world, life and oneself, without hypocrisy, affectation or indifference. It is like the clarity in Yumiko Araki's eyes. She is 40 years old, without any trace of worldly intrigue and scheming, and has no traces of the vicissitudes of life. She still believes in beautiful and bright things like a child. But this time it is a return to nature after experiencing many hardships, living a childlike life, a life of the soul. This kind of woman has Yeats's poem as a supporting evidence, "How many people love you when you are young and happy/admire your beauty, false or true/only one person loves your pilgrim soul."

3. Be wise. There is no need to say more about this point. Science and technology are the primary productive forces. Only if you have your own abilities can you be independent and create a beautiful life that you can control. Women who are like this are often called useless women, and most of them end up selling themselves wholesale to marriage or retailing themselves as mistresses of rich men. It is truly the downfall of woman.

Women's decorum and elegance

"Elegance" is a book written by Madame de Alliot, a French fashion leader, for women who want to always be outstanding and decent. It provides detailed and wonderful suggestions on everything from daily clothing to small accessories, making it a must-read for fashionable women.

Color is always part of elegance

There is no doubt that color is always a part of elegance. However, color is unlike anything else: no color stays popular forever. A color or color combination may be unacceptable to us today, but it will fascinate us tomorrow.

All light colors can be combined beautifully, but they are only suitable for the hot summer season or for fancy suits in the evening. Accessories in light colors tend to look bland and boring when paired with urban suits.

For an individual, some colors will match their skin tone and hair color to a certain extent more than others. It is worth pointing out that most ladies have preconceived ideas since childhood about what colors they can and cannot wear; as a result, they sometimes miss out on many colors that are very suitable for them, simply because they don't want to try them.

When your skin is very tanned from the sun, it is best not to wear black and navy blue, but brown will usually match you very well. Generally speaking, if you wear bright colors, it requires a good skin tone, while light and beautiful colors are not so picky about skin tone. Older ladies look much more beautiful in white, sky blue, pink, light gray and beige clothes than in black or brown. Red is appropriate at almost any time and can also make people happy. The same goes for sky blue, which suits all skin tones, all hair colors, and is suitable for ladies of all ages.

If it's sunlight rather than against a grey city backdrop, then you can liven up the colours of your clothes, but avoid purple, which doesn't work well in bright sunlight. In fact, in the city (especially for working women), daytime clothes only look really nice and elegant in neutral colors, even in the middle of summer. However, coats and suits are more charming when made of brightly colored wool.

If some clothes are to be worn during the day, then you must carefully examine their colors in real daylight. For clothes that you will only wear at night, you should choose their colors under the light. You also need to choose your clothes based on the color of your hair and the makeup you want to use - these are also things that cannot be ignored. Before you try a brand new color, you should make sure it will go with an outfit you already have—even if it's just a new pair of earrings.

In short, an elegant woman should dare to try colors that she is not used to from time to time, but she should have an open vision and an open mind when making choices.

Elegance is a privilege of age

There is a French proverb: "Elegance is the privilege of age." A woman can be graceful until the end of her life.

People can be tolerant if young girls have some quirks in their clothing. Elegance is always acquired after making countless mistakes, and we will recognize these mistakes later.

For older women - or more accurately, for women who look older - there are certain clothing items that are absolutely inappropriate, including overly bright colors and unconventional styles - like skirts that are too short. For not-so-young ladies, the most loyal friends in clothing are the following: various light and beautiful colors. Various ribbons, soft crepe, and pure wool products. Never wear a strapless dress. Long scarves, shawls, and long scarves. Wear cool short-sleeved clothes in summer, but don't expose the upper part of your arms.

When women reach a certain age, they are more suitable to wear light-colored clothes, and the same goes for their hair. Pure white hair is always cute, but don't dye your pure white hair with a few strands of eye-catching blue or purple.

It is better to wear light makeup, but don't wear no makeup at all, because no makeup will make you look old and unkempt.

We should also show respect to older ladies. Never think that an elegant woman will not care about her clothes after she reaches the age of seventy! There are some simple ways to keep your elegant demeanor:

•Don't give up wearing high heels, just choose lower and sturdier heels.

•If you have varicose veins, wear tight nylon stockings in neutral colors. These socks appear thin, but are actually completely opaque.

• Choose clothes that are easy to put on and take off, such as those with a row of buttons on the front or an extended zipper on the back. Because your body may not be as limber as it once was, don't force yourself to wear clothes that have to be pulled over your head. In fact, any piece of clothing can be made to be easily put on.

•Because you'll be spending more time sitting, the hem of your skirt should flare out slightly so you appear modest when sitting. And you'll want to pleat a taffeta or silk skirt to keep it from hanging down. Most importantly, avoid tight skirts that are too narrow and tight, as they will slide down above your knees as soon as you sit down.

•As your dresses, coats, and suits become simpler, you'll need to pay more and more attention to your accessories. An older lady's ideal wardrobe would be something like this: just a few pieces of well-designed, high-quality clothing, but with a wide variety of very elegant accessories.

• Wear only the loveliest light-colored mohair shawls, only the most pastel-colored cashmere sweaters you can afford, only the softest, most generous little fur scarves, and only the most elegant light-colored woolen dressing gowns and loungewear.

We simply compare old age to the "autumn of life". It is like a soothing piece of music, its theme is humility and noble taste. Older women should have a longer-term vision, watch the changing fashion trends, but stick to what suits them best.

Don't go shopping with your girlfriend

This is a helpful guideline. She often becomes your rival without realizing it and will unknowingly destroy what is best for you. Even if her only wish is to make you the most beautiful woman possible, I still stand by my opinion: you should shop alone and only seek advice from experts who, at least, will not be emotionally biased.

Besides, even if your female companion is selfless, it is unlikely that she will have the same figure, the same lifestyle, the same social status, and the same taste as you. So, she will see things very differently than you will, she will only see things according to her own taste, her own wallet, and her own needs. No matter what you choose for yourself, she will think from her own perspective that it is not suitable for her - or conversely, that it is not suitable for you but more suitable for her - and then she will make a comment that will shake your already shaky confidence. Then you are no longer sure whether you like the dress you are about to buy; you hesitate and decide not to buy it - but you really need it! I am particularly afraid of the following three types of female companions:

1. A female companion who wants to be exactly like you in everything. She will fall in love with the same dress as you, and like you, she will fall in love with it at first sight.

2. A female companion whose wallet is tighter than yours. There's no way she'd buy the same clothes as you (in fact, she'd dream of buying the same clothes as you). Maybe you think: For her, shopping with you is actually a pleasure. But personally, I would call this practice psychologically cruel. Besides, such a companion is of no use to you at all, since she will always approve of whatever you choose. Even if these things don't quite fit you, she'll approve of them—even more enthusiastically.

3. Finally, there is a female companion who is good at dressing and from whom you want to get advice. She'll probably be happy because you treat her as a fashion expert and she'll do her best to help you with your outfit. She may also (in fact, she almost certainly will) be of no help to you: this spoiled, self-confident companion will command the full attention of the salesgirl, who will be quick to spot that she is a good customer. The end result is that people are busy trying to figure out what looks best on your partner, not what looks best on you - you're forgotten.

My conclusion: do your own shopping. As for your best female companion, just call her and ask her out the next day.

Carefully use jewelry

Jewelry is unique among all the things you wear, and it has only one function - to make you more elegant. However, one thing is certain: an elegant woman, even if she loves jewelry as much as I do, should never be so obsessed with it that she ends up hanging decorations all over her body like a Christmas tree.

During the day, you can wear at most one ring on one hand (wear it on the ring finger or little finger, never on other fingers. If you already wear a wedding ring or engagement ring, don't wear anything else on that hand). You can wear a watch or a pearl bracelet (or a bracelet with other beads). If your outfit is very plain and without any decoration, you can wear a brooch or pin. Brooches can be pinned on the collar or shoulders of a coat or suit. However, if you wear a necklace, it can only be worn inside your top and visible only from the neckline, not outside your top.

A chunky bracelet - decorated with pretty baubles and more precious gemstones - can look very interesting and chic, but wearing such a bracelet will put an end to all other jewelry.

Generally speaking, pure gold jewelry does not look very elegant at night. If you are already wearing white gold jewelry inlaid with gemstones, do not wear gold jewelry at the same time.

Most jewelry goes out of style every twenty years or so, with the exception of single gemstone rings and pearls. So, if you have had these pieces for a long time, it may be necessary to have the earliest ones re-set. On the other hand, if you are lucky enough to inherit your great-grandmother’s jewelry collection, then these pieces are like antique furniture, very chic and very precious. You don't have to change the style of these jewellery and can wear them with great joy and elegance.

With the exception of solitaires and strands of pearls, a gemstone’s beauty is not measured by its price or size. Putting a bunch of diamonds together in a monotonous way is just a show of wealth. Compared with this, setting a single gem in a beautiful and creative way is much more elegant.

There are some combinations of gemstones that are very fashionable, and in my opinion the most chic combinations are white and yellow diamonds, sapphires and emeralds, and turquoise and diamonds. Coral is also a wonderful thing, and it can be beautifully combined with many other precious gems, such as pearls, white jade, turquoise, and even diamonds, but the style of this combination is not as sophisticated.

A necklace made of cultured or imitation pearls, no matter how beautiful, should only be considered "imitation" jewelry. However, if imitation jewelry reveals its natural color, there is no need to feel inferior. They also tend to be very flattering, very chic, and can make an outfit much more elegant. Every season, fashion designers introduce some costume jewelry. Some of the world’s wealthiest women also love to buy and wear these “fake” gems.

Of course, this kind of imitation jewelry requires you to choose carefully, and remember one basic rule: you should only have one piece of imitation jewelry at a time as part of your main jewelry. The advantage of these ornaments is that they are only used for a short time. You can buy them specifically to match a particular outfit, you won't have to worry about traveling with them, and they can even make you look new and exotic. However, they are suitable only for gentle and delicate ladies, while those somewhat manly and carefree ladies rarely have the necessary talent to wear such jewelry.

There is one kind of jewelry that suits everyone, looks good with every outfit, is appropriate for almost every occasion, and is indispensable in every woman's wardrobe: the pearl necklace - whether real or imitation.