Why do you have such a bad time at work? How can you make your boss and colleagues like you?

Interpersonal relationships are very fragile. Everyone has different personalities and likes and dislikes. I think it is very difficult to be liked by leaders and colleagues. I can only try not to make people feel disgusted. Keep a safe distance between people and keep each other in a state of non-rejection.

Why is it so miserable after work?

1. Education is just a stepping stone to enter the workplace, it does not represent your ability and experience

To put it bluntly, some students have high scores but low abilities, while others have low scores but high abilities. So, since you are a high scorer with excellent academic performance since childhood, can you guarantee that you are a high ability student? This is a question that you need to think about carefully.

Being good at studying is just about your excellent grades and awards. What proves your desire and motivation to pursue knowledge and exploration is your experience and ability after entering the society. A high starting point does not mean you have enough stamina. The key is your mentality.

When you enter society, everything starts from zero and you start from scratch. You and everyone else start from the same starting line.

2. Society is a big examination room, testing all aspects of knowledge and skills

To be honest, if you are good at studying, you will naturally have a high starting point, and you will feel a little bit of underestimation of your enemies. This will make you relax your vigilance, and when facing people with less academic qualifications than you in the workplace, you will feel contemptuous, thus ignoring the other party's strength.

But we must know that society is a big examination hall, and it tests everything. Even if you have excellent grades, it does not mean that you can get full marks. Some people are able to gain more advantages in emotional intelligence due to their acquired strength and stamina, and they will progress faster than you.

Another point is that people who can boast and drink well in society are not doing badly, and people with high emotional intelligence in society are also more comfortable in life. This is an ironclad fact!

How can you make your leaders and colleagues like you?

First of all, if you want your boss to like you, there is a necessary element, that is, "you must have the opportunity to contact the boss frequently." For example, if you don't say a word to your manager for a week, and your work is not outstanding, how can he like you? At this time, the boss's understanding of you is just "knowing you", not understanding you, let alone liking you.

1. You must have strong working ability

As long as you have strong working ability, even if you have little contact with the leader, at least the leader can know you from others. Although it is impossible for the leader to like you immediately, you have laid a foundation. When there is a job that falls directly on you in the future and you can communicate directly with the manager, your opportunity will come.

2. Personality determines everything

If you are not the kind of person who likes to interact with leaders, it will be difficult for leaders to like you. People who are lively, outgoing, and have a sense of humor are more popular.

How can you treat your boss like an enemy when you meet him? You need to cultivate your optimistic personality, sense of humor and affinity. You should know that being able to speak in the workplace is also a science.

So if you are an introvert and not good at speaking, just change yourself a little.

3. Find more opportunities to be with your leaders and break the purely superior-subordinate relationship between you and them.

Only when you spend more time together can you have a two-way understanding between you and your leader. You should seize every opportunity to communicate with your leader, such as in the elevator, on the way to and from get off work, etc.

Moreover, if you and your leader are purely superiors and subordinates, without any personal relationship, it will be difficult for you to get into the heart of the leader. In this case, when you meet, you may just nod and greet each other, without much conversation.

We need to find ways to break this kind of relationship, but that doesn't mean you have no sense of superiors and subordinates at all. It means that while there is a superior-subordinate relationship, there is also a bit of personal friendship.

If you want to have a personal relationship, you need more contact, so this goes back to what was said above.

4. It is difficult to make all your colleagues like you

You are asking too much of yourself in this regard. No matter how good you are in the company, there will always be some people who don't like you, and you don't even know how you offended them.

You don't know what each of your colleagues thinks and how they see you. Even if you do well, some people still don't like you, as if you are born enemies. So if this is the case, why do you still try to please everyone?

In addition, for some companies with a high staff turnover, you simply cannot do this. Maybe he will leave before you get to know him well. What's the point of doing this?

Sometimes we care so much about what others think of us that we forget to live our own lives.

So give up this requirement. You don’t need to make all your colleagues like you. As long as most people like you, it means you are popular.

Why do leaders always target honest people?

1. Obey orders

One of the characteristics of an honest person is that he is obedient and has strong execution. Even when faced with criticism and blame from the leader, he will accept it with an open mind and do more self-reflection instead of contradicting the leader.

2. The interpersonal network is relatively closed

What does it mean? An honest person is not used to complaining about the company's problems to others, but will choose to accept them silently, and is not likely to spread negative energy. This trait determines that he is the first choice for the leader to cut, and basically has no other worries...

3. Loyalty and loyalty

Honest people may be easily moved by other people's emotions because of their limited social circle, and use this to achieve their own respect and emotional appeal. Therefore, after the leader has taken action against an honest employee, even if he is emotional, as long as the leader calms down and has a sincere talk with the honest employee and moves him with emotion, he is likely to gain his complete understanding.