Why do I feel nervous when meeting my boss? How can I overcome my nervousness and be unable to speak in front of my boss?

At work, most employees get nervous when they see their leaders. They don't know what to say and are even more worried about saying the wrong thing. Why are they so nervous in front of their leaders? The biggest reason is that they lack confidence, and the second is that they are worried that they haven't done their job well. In the face of this phenomenon, how should we overcome it?

Why do I get nervous when I meet my boss?

Subordinates are afraid of their leaders, which may be a common phenomenon among Chinese people. The main reason is the disparity in status. As subordinates, the leaders are so high that they can only look up to them, which will inevitably lead to inferiority complex. Especially in private enterprises, many bosses are like local emperors of independent kingdoms, and they often regard themselves as the ones who give employees jobs. In front of successful people, the obedience of inferior people is often manifested as "fear".

Everyone in the workplace wants to be promoted. Whether it is a state-owned enterprise, a private enterprise or an institution, one's future is often in the hands of the leader. If you want to go further, you must obey the leader and be respectful, which is also manifested as "fear of the leader". At this time, "fear" is a kind of awe of power and a signal of loyalty to the leader.

In addition, when a person is not confident in his or her own abilities, he or she will become dependent on powerful people. For example, many employees lack the skills to make a living, or lack the courage and determination, and are afraid that they will not be able to find a better job after leaving the company, so they will be cautious and dare not offend their leaders at work, and will even endure humiliation when their leaders insult their personalities. At this time, "fear of the leader" is a helpless act of lack of self-confidence.

How to overcome the nervousness of not being able to speak in front of the leader

1. If you are confident, you won’t be nervous. Instead, you should work harder to improve your abilities, become someone who can stand on their own, and be confident in front of anyone.

2. Communicate with others as much as possible, and you can improve your communication skills. Moreover, other people's opinions can sometimes really broaden your thinking, which is very beneficial. You will find that you can gradually find common topics with others, and you can chat with anyone, including your leaders.

How to be a discerning person in front of the leader

It is said that the first type is innate. This type of person has observation and analysis abilities different from ordinary people. They can analyze the leaders' preferences from their every frown, smile, word and deed, and then cater to their preferences and hit the mark.

The second type is acquired. If you are not gifted but want to become this type of person, you need to spend time and energy to figure out the deeper meaning of what your leader said to you. For example, your leader said to you, "Oh, Xiao Zhang, you are a top student. I really hope my son will be as good as you in the future." Then you have to analyze that the leader has a son who is still in school and the leader hopes that his son will become a pillar of society in the future. Then you can ask others about the son's age and discuss with the leader the issue of education for children of this age...