Lesbian sex life

In many European and American countries, homosexuality has become a legal form of marriage. More and more countries do not regard homosexuality as a mental illness. Homosexuality is divided into gay men and lesbians. For lesbians, sexual life requires some skills, and many of them are self-taught in this regard. For example, caressing and kissing, some auxiliary tools, etc., let us learn about this aspect.

"Having sex with her, I learned to master the special sexual stimulation techniques she needed, explored her body, became familiar with her body smell and skin texture, and I found that I loved myself more."

Of course, we also have problems with our sex lives. One of the problems is that some people mistakenly believe that there will be no problems with our sex lives. The problem comes when expectations are too high, when one always expects sex with a woman to be "blissful, spontaneous, instinctive, and never boring."

The first time a homosexual has sex, there are often many non-sexual factors involved. We would feel a certain sexual freedom, we would be ecstatic, happy, scared to death. It may take months, even years, to fully understand the changing patterns in our sex lives: what we like and what our respective obstacles are.

Some people think that having sex with women can be "self-taught"

I thought that as both of us are women, we both understand very well what kind of stimulation each other needs. However, the truth may not be that simple.

"I have a hard time getting aroused, but once I am aroused, I can easily orgasm. My partner has an easy time getting started, but it's hard for him to orgasm, and he gets very frustrated. But no one is too embarrassed to talk about it."

"We had been in a passionate sexual relationship for a year and a half. But when we moved in together, sex suddenly became a problem. We found that our modes were very different. She needed to chat, to feel intimate through conversation, and to be completely relaxed before she could get into the mood. I needed a lot of caressing to relax enough to talk intimately. As soon as I entered the bedroom, I would reach out for her and she would immediately freeze. We tried to find out the reason for a few months, and both of us felt terrible. Finally, we figured out what was going on."

"She said none of her previous lovers had ever asked her if she had any disease before having sex. I was stunned to hear that."

Due to the influence of social culture, it is believed that women should not be active in "sex" and should not seek sexual pleasure openly. Therefore, learning how to freely discuss each other's sexual needs with same-sex partners may give us some inspiration.

1. "The difficulty of having sex with a woman is that you need to tell the truth more often, express your true feelings, explore when you feel passive, instead of pretending to feel good; if you are in a daze, you need to ask what you are afraid of."

Second, we may enter same-sex relationships with heterosexual role models that are harmful to women. Whether we were ever straight or not, those ideas always come up. We might bring the following ideas to lovemaking:

3. We think we don’t really enjoy sex, perhaps because we have low sexual desire or are “sexually apathetic.”