I am pregnant and I am confused about whether to

Pregnancy is every woman's unique right, but also a difficulty that every woman needs to face. In addition to the pain of giving birth, there is also the hardship of raising a child. Therefore, many women do not want to have a second child after giving birth to one child. However, with the opening of the second-child policy, relatives are encouraging the birth of a second child. So if you are worried about whether you need a second child, what should you do?

I am worried about whether I need to have a second child.

benefit

1. Let the first child not be lonely. This is especially true for some parents of only children born in the 1980s. As an only child themselves, they feel that they have been alone since childhood, and there is no one to share their happiness and thoughts. It’s not prosperous or fun at all. I envy those who have siblings. Therefore, I always hope that my children have a companion, which is better than being alone. When they grow up, they can help each other, and they can have many family members and friends and live a prosperous life.

2. Make the adoptive parents feel a little helped. If there is only one child, he/she will go out to study and work, or settle down in another place in the future. The parents will be at home, there will be nothing going on at home, and no one will be there to take care of him/her. It will be so dull. If there is one more child, maybe one of them can stay by your side, and when you get older, you won't feel so lost, empty and lonely. Having children around to serve you tea and water, and having someone to take care of you and help you when you have a fever, a cold or are sick, is much more convenient.

3. Make you feel more complete inside. In some families, if they have a daughter, they may want to have a son to make a good family. Although it doesn't matter whether they have a boy or a girl, in some rural areas, especially some elderly people prefer grandchildren, they may relieve some pressure on their daughter-in-law and ask her to have a second child. In this way, if a boy happens to be born, the family will feel very kind and perfect. I heard that there are more boys than girls nowadays, is that true?

Disadvantages

1. The pressure at home has increased. From birth to going to college, you have to spend money, and it costs a lot of money. You have to buy baby formula, right? Others go to early childhood education institutions, training institutions, etc., which is probably also a huge expense, as well as food, clothing, housing and transportation. Maybe the money that you originally intended to save for other purposes must be used to take care of your children. After having a second child, mothers will probably not be as casual about buying skin care products and clothes as before.

2. You should make more efforts in terms of time and energy. I have seen mothers who gave birth to second children in the community. Especially when the children are still relatively young and the elderly cannot help, the husband has to work, and the mother has to support the family completely by herself. She has to take care of the older child's study and daily life, and take care of the younger child. I am so busy every day that I don't even have time to comb my hair, let alone have my own schedule. I have to serve my children 24 hours a day, and I don't have enough food to eat or sleep well. Worry a lot about the kids.

3. Affect daily living standards and quality of life. Originally, my family was planning to use some money to go out for a trip and some fun, but after having our second child, it became impossible to go out. The pressure of daily life has increased, and working parents have to work harder to earn money to support their families. I heard that there was a boss who used to own a small supermarket nearby. He had a son as his first pregnancy and wanted to have a daughter. But who knew that he ended up having twins. As a result, the child's mother felt the pressure of life and chose to divorce. However, that is a very rare case.