Why does the leader say that he is kind? How should I respond if the leader says that I am too kind?

The most interesting thing about Chinese is that each sentence has a completely different meaning depending on the scene, context, and even tone. Therefore, as a professional, we must first learn to listen, and discern and understand the true meaning of the speaker's words through the scene, context, and tone, so that we can make a correct and appropriate response. So, how should I respond when my boss says I am too kind? Let's take a look!

What does it mean when your boss says you are kind?

1. Recognize your character

First of all, your leader discovered your kindness and found that you are relatively simple in your work life, but you are too simple, which is what your leader said is "too kind". In the work life, it is okay to be appropriately kind, and it is also conducive to getting along with colleagues. You can't be fierce and vicious right from the start, otherwise who would dare to make friends with you in the future. I personally think that the "colleague" relationship without the maintenance of the "friend" relationship will definitely not last long. This is the first point, your leader recognizes your character.

2. Care about your development

If your leader doesn't care about you, why would he say anything to you? This is just like when we were in school. In my impression, the teachers usually don't care about the students sitting in the last row, as long as they don't do anything too much. They can do whatever they want as long as they don't affect others. I think before your leader said this, you must have done what he asked you to do. He thinks you are a promising talent, but you are too kind and honest, so he will feel sorry for you after being happy, and also remind you and care about you.

3. Worrying about your career prospects

When you say this, you may have just entered the workplace. Some people say that the business world is like a battlefield, and I think the workplace is similar. Kind people may be very popular at the beginning, because everyone just met and they all like "obedient" colleagues, and colleagues get along well with each other, but over time. Not everyone is as kind as you. In order to get a promotion and salary increase, and to get awards and honors, many people may do whatever it takes and squeeze forward. You can only become a stepping stone victim. In other words, your career development prospects may be frustrated. Your leader is worried about you and is also caring for you.

Why do leaders say they are kind?

One day your leader tells you that you are too kind! Don't be too happy at this time. Your leader is really good at speaking. He has brought the art of speaking to the extreme. He doesn't criticize you harshly. You should listen to the opposite side of the story.

Generally speaking, you must be the leader of the relevant department, or the leader asked you to handle a personnel-related matter, or the leader gave you a task. The leader felt that the result of your report was too lenient and did not meet the leader's intention. The leader's words at work are actually dissatisfaction with your work, but the leader just said it in a different way.

As management, we have direct contact with the people below and are more or less emotionally involved. When we strictly handle people, we will be more or less affected by the emotions or lose our grasp. You should have handled them with 100% but your emotions weakened you by 90%, 80%, 70% or even 60%... When emotions are mixed into work, we sometimes lose our strength. When the leader hears you or knows the results of your handling, he is unwilling to directly criticize you for your lack of principles and lack of mercy, so he gives you those meaningless words.

Management needs to be strict, and anyone who violates discipline and rules and regulations must be treated ruthlessly. The system must speak and the laws and regulations must be used as the measure. Only in this way can we maximize the protection of the fundamental interests of the unit, maintain the management authority of the leaders, and maintain the healthy development of the enterprise.

How to respond when my boss says I am too kind

It probably means that you lack management skills.

Management should understand the rules and boundaries. When necessary, it should be done with both kindness and severity, rather than blindly being calm and compromising. Otherwise, management will not be done well at all. If the leader says you are too kind, it means that you did not punish the mistakes of your subordinates, or the punishment was too weak. Of course, the leader used a more euphemistic and polite statement out of respect and care for you. If you don't take this sentence to heart and continue to use the past practice, then the leader will not be so polite next time. In general, being too kind in management may be out of sympathy, or being introverted, or lack of experience. It depends on your specific situation, and then you can take targeted measures. If you have too much sympathy, it means you don't understand your position. If you are introverted, give yourself more time to adapt. If you lack experience, you should learn more relevant knowledge and ask more questions from your predecessors.

A good manager should be calm and purposeful.