What should I do if my child is pessimistic? The source of my child's pessimism

As parents, we should not only pay attention to our children's studies, but also pay attention to their mental health and their emotions. What should we do if our children are pessimistic? We should find the source of pessimism, understand and solve the problem, and learn more about the impact of pessimism on children. I hope everyone will be a good parent.

Contents of this article

1. What to do if your child is pessimistic

2. The source of children’s pessimism

3. What impact will pessimism have on children?

What to do if your child is pessimistic

1. Encourage children and improve their self-confidence

When children show pessimism, parents should understand the reason and comfort them in time, telling them to face difficulties bravely. Even if they make mistakes, at least they have learned from their mistakes and will not back down next time they encounter difficulties. Children who can move forward in adversity show that they have strong will and self-confidence, and strong self-confidence is a manifestation of optimism.

2. Guide children to overcome themselves

When children encounter setbacks, parents should guide them to face them correctly. They should not let them blindly compare themselves with others. They should start from themselves and learn to compare themselves today with themselves yesterday to see if they have improved. Parents should be good at discovering their children's weaknesses and strengths, and should not use their children's past failures as a handle. As parents, we need to tap into our children's potential and give them full play to their strengths, which is their self-confidence, thus forming a positive and optimistic attitude.

3. When your child is pessimistic, try to divert his attention.

The situations that lead to pessimism vary. Sometimes it is relatively mild, and sometimes it is difficult to guide the child out of it no matter how much encouragement and guidance the parents give. At this time, you can use the method of diverting attention to alleviate the child's negative emotions. For example, if the child likes to play in the water, you can suddenly suggest taking the child to the beach or swimming pool. Use this activity to divert the child's negative emotions. After the swimming is over, these pessimistic emotions will also dissipate a lot, or even completely dissipate. After the child's emotions are calm, you can then enlighten the child.

The source of children's pessimism

1. Failure to vent emotions in a timely and reasonable manner

Many children are criticized at school, or are wronged for some reason, and do not receive timely care and proper psychological counseling. Over time, these negative emotions will accumulate and eventually lead to some negative emotions. For example, if a child is misunderstood by his parents for some reason, and the parents criticize the child in a tough manner and do not allow the child to cry or complain, the negative emotions will eventually erupt over time.

2. Too many negative experiences

For example, children are often misunderstood and overly criticized by their parents, their beloved pets are lost, their parents promise to take them somewhere to play but for some reason cannot fulfill their wishes, etc. Too many negative experiences can make children become pessimistic.

How does pessimism affect children?

1. When children fall into pessimism, they will lose their self-confidence when they encounter problems or mess up a lot of things. When they encounter problems again, they dare not try to break through themselves. Even if they dare to try, the problems encountered in the process and the pessimistic mood will make children think about the bad side, and fail to correctly recognize the good side. They often choose to give up at this step and do not continue to break through themselves.

2. Children who are too pessimistic will have poor stress resistance when encountering difficulties. This may also affect their social skills, because pessimism often leads to inferiority complex. In today's highly competitive society, it is very important to have good social skills.