How to know if your partner wants to break up in a relationship

We all know that breaking up is a common way to deal with emotions. Many couples' feelings fade away and they no longer have the same feelings as before. As the two people drift apart, it is easy for them to break up. In the process of dating, it is often one of them who wants to break up first. So how do you find out that the other person wants to break up? Let's take a closer look!

How do you find out that your partner wants to break up when you are in a relationship?

1. Resist physical intimacy with you

If a person starts to disagree with you psychologically, he will unconsciously show resistance in his limbs. For example, you used to hug each other intimately, but now this intimacy has become very rare. Even if he does it, you will notice that he is perfunctory or not as enthusiastic as before.

2. He started to take less initiative

He rarely sends you messages or calls you, and his replies are much shorter and take longer to reply. When you contact him, he always says he is busy, but he doesn't contact you much afterwards. At the same time, he works overtime and travels more often, and sometimes you can't reach him because his phone is turned off or out of battery. He has a lot of excuses.

3. Repeating something you know you don’t like

For example, even though he knows you don't like him going to nightclubs, he still tells you that he often goes to nightclubs recently. You don't like him smoking, but he continues to smoke and drink excessively. Anyway, he no longer cares about your opinion of him or your feelings, and does everything according to his own temperament. This is also a sign that he wants to break up with you.

Can you detect a breakup in a relationship?

There was no reliable and obvious evidence before the breakup, and only at the time of the breakup did the previous anxiety become real. This "last" confirmation is the real breakup.

Before the breakup is confirmed, all of this is just speculation. According to the rubber band theory of men and the wave theory of women, there will be many "signs" of a breakup without actually breaking up.

The rubber band theory of men

A man's intimacy cycle is like a rubber band, which will bounce back after being stretched to a certain length. If he gets close and then has to leave, he will become irritable and irritable, which is like a precursor to a breakup.

But as long as the woman doesn't pay too much attention to him, after a while, he will come back and resume his original role as a warm man. Even when facing the woman he loves deeply, he needs to keep his distance from time to time, switching between alienation and intimacy.

When a man is under pressure or feels depressed, he will find a place to sit by himself, as if he has entered a tree hole. Men use this method to relax their body and mind to face the problem. The alienation at this moment really has nothing to do with their partner.

Women's Wave Theory

Waves are a series of ups and downs of parabolas. When the waves surge upward and form crests, women are in a good mood and can do things efficiently and properly. At this moment, "if you are well, it will be a sunny day."

When the wave reaches the bottom, the woman's mood instantly falls into the valley, her temper becomes bad, she quarrels, and goes into a cold war, completely losing her former kindness and warmth. How similar is this moment to before the breakup?!

According to John Gray's theory, a woman's emotions throughout her life are like the ups and downs of waves, alternating forward. When she is at her lowest point, it is not a sign of a breakup, but the time when she needs her partner's comfort and companionship the most.

How to get over the pain of a breakup

First, accept the fact of breaking up.

Although you are very reluctant in your heart, you have to really think rationally and face the matter of heartbreak and breakup. Since you have broken up, you must accept this fact, otherwise you will always be immersed in pain.

Second point, try to divert your attention after breaking up

Try to spend more time on work and more time hanging out with friends. Try to avoid recalling every detail of your past relationship. Try to avoid anything related to this relationship. Only in this way will you have a chance to slowly get over it.

Third, try to delete any keepsakes or contact information about the other party in this relationship.

This way you will completely give up and let go, which is especially important for people who usually have poor emotional self-control or emotional people. Otherwise, you will always not give up, and will find ways to contact the other party and pester them endlessly.

Fourth, spend more time with friends and accept your next relationship calmly or with anticipation.

When you accept the next relationship, you will be able to quickly fill the emptiness and pain of your broken heart, and slowly you will forget the hurt caused by the previous relationship.