Can a man and a woman with similar personalities be a couple?

Common Character

After Shanshan discovered that her boyfriend had cheated on her, she was heartbroken and finally decided to break up with him. But she never understood that the real problem was not that men all like to cheat, but the inferiority and weakness they all share. It was like two people sinking to the bottom of the water and no one could save them, and in the end both of them drowned.

Sister-brother relationship

Before Shanshan fell in love with her ex-boyfriend Xiaoqiang, she had an opportunity to be in a relationship with a younger man, but she turned away because she was afraid of gossip. Later, after her relationship with Xiaoqiang failed, Shanshan looked back and found that the little brother was still staying there obediently, and her maternal instinct was aroused.

After a few interactions, their old love was rekindled. After Shanshan and Xiaoqiang broke up completely, the little brother took good care of her in every way. Finally, Shanshan softened her heart and agreed, and they simply moved in together.

Logically speaking, they chose their relationship freely, and their feelings have been deep for many years, so there shouldn't be any problems. But the only thing that was not taken into consideration was the common character weaknesses of these two people.

Shanshan is a gentle person with a strong heart, but she is also very concerned about her reputation. Because of this, Shanshan was unable to accept the reality of an age-gap relationship at first, for fear of being gossiped about by others.

In this situation, Shanshan actually needs to find a man who is not so strong in his career but is very strong mentally to complement her.

But the fact is just the opposite. The object of her sister-brother relationship is a very typical little man. He is not mentally strong enough. Although he has feelings for Shanshan, he also has reservations about sister-brother relationships.

At the beginning, their relationship was naturally going well. The two of them were in love in the house they lived in together and even had a dog.

But the two of them don't often go out to see friends, and they haven't integrated into each other's circle of friends.

To put it bluntly, it is the self-esteem and inferiority complex in my heart that are at work.

Women are afraid of being accused of being in a relationship between an older woman and a younger man, while men are afraid of being accused of being a gigolo who lives off women. In fact, both are true.

Both of them are unwilling to admit the facts, unwilling to face them, and hope to escape in a small nest.

Both of them have almost become homebodies. Apart from going to work, they just stay at home facing each other. Even if they socialize with each other, they just play by themselves.

For Shanshan, although life is a little abnormal, she can still get by. But for the boyfriend, there are obvious psychological changes.

As I said before, men’s love is a combination of sexual desire, desire to conquer, and desire to protect.

In this case, Shanshan is the one who is strong materially, while the man is unable to become strong spiritually.

So in reality it is Shanshan who owns the man, not the man who owns Shanshan, at least that's what the man thinks psychologically.

And what choice did he make? He is almost bound to have an affair because, after being owned for a long time, the man also wants to own a woman.

This kind of example is very common. A mistress who has been kept for a long time will often keep a gigolo of her own.

A kept gigolo will keep a mistress because he feels owned and conquered by someone else, and over time he will want to conquer others. This psychological backlash is very obvious in Shanshan's boyfriend.

After Shanshan discovered that her boyfriend had cheated on her, she was heartbroken and finally decided to break up with him. But she never understood that the real problem was not that men all like to cheat, but the inferiority and weakness they all share. It was like two people sinking to the bottom of the water and no one could save them, and in the end both of them drowned.

This is a typical example of a breakup caused by similar personalities. It sounds unbelievable to everyone. Isn't it good to have similar personalities? Why should there be awkwardness? In fact, each of us has strengths and weaknesses, and there are always aspects of life that we are good at dealing with and aspects that we are not good at dealing with. Two people with exactly the same personalities have the same strengths and weaknesses.

In other words, after they become a couple, they will do very well in the things they are good at, which can be described as a sharp edge that can cut through metal. However, problems will be doubled when it comes to things that one is not good at, such as being too concerned about reputation, not daring to admit or face reality.

The good are extremely good, and the bad are extremely bad. But remember, life is not about how good your best can be, but about what average level you can maintain. The quality of life is not measured by orgasm, but by your daily eating, drinking, defecating and urinating. Even if you are the king of the world for a second, as long as you spend most of your time picking up trash, you are a homeless person.

This is the case with Shanshan and her boyfriend. They have very, very happy moments, but their common character weaknesses are enough to cause disaster. Character determines marriage, and having the same character does not necessarily mean it is a good thing.

In the formula for selecting a good man, living habits are more important than personality. That is to say, you should first choose someone with the same living habits as you, and then consider personality factors. All in all, one thing to remember is that lives are consistent and personalities are complementary.