How to improve the suspicious mentality during menopause?

Menopause is a period of low energy for many people, and during this period you must adjust your mentality so that you can get through this sensitive period.

Symptoms of menopause:

(1) Sensory hypersensitivity

Being overly sensitive, they force themselves to associate some unpleasant events happening around them with their own and believe everything they hear. When I hear that women of the same age have died of cancer, I immediately think that I may have the same fate; at home, when my children come home late from school, I wonder if there has been a car accident on the road; when a female comrade calls home or my lover comes home late, I wonder if there is a third party. These connections are often gray, that is, unhappy, frustrated, and sad. "Worrying about nothing will happen again" is a portrayal of this kind of hypersensitivity.

(2) Pay special attention to rumors

In some units, there are always some people who like to spread gossip or rumors, and some menopausal women are active participants and victims of these spreads. When rumors are exaggerated and distorted, they cause tension in interpersonal relationships, which is a vicious stimulus to menopausal women.

(3) Behavior-action relationship

That is, to make blind associations with certain behaviors and actions of others. Sometimes a few people are quietly discussing something, and when a menopausal woman happens to walk by, they stop talking or suddenly laugh. Even though the matter these people were talking about had nothing to do with her, the woman would immediately sensitively connect it to "they were talking about me behind my back and making fun of me". The imbalance in her heart would immediately swell and her emotions would immediately become heated.

(4) Blind suspicion

In particular, she will blindly doubt things that involve her own interests. For example, when some decisions on promotion, salary increase, and housing allocation do not meet her wishes, she will blindly doubt. She may suspect that there is someone in the leadership team or the personnel department who is behind the scenes, and even "line up" these leading cadres one by one with her fingers. She may also suspect whether people in the same department have reported her behind her back and "ruined my good things." Once she is sure, her resentment will rise sharply.

For the suspicious mentality, menopausal women should mainly improve themselves:

(1) Learn to think calmly

If you encounter any doubts, do not jump to conclusions. If the matter is not urgent, you may want to wait a few days to see what is going on. If the matter is urgent, you can ask a superior or colleague you trust for clarification. Time is the best coolant.

(2) Learn to be tolerant

The handling of any matter cannot be 100% reasonable. When conditions are close or similar, a decision may benefit some people. It is an objective fact that those who are cut off by "one-size-fits-all" measures will have an unbalanced mentality. At this time, you might as well learn to be a little tolerant. "Contentment is the greatest happiness" is a good regulator.

(3) Learn some positive psychological defenses

For example, learn to "deny". For certain things that are highly suspected but cannot be confirmed, don't "forget" them, but "deny" them, as if they never happened. Treat things that you are unwilling to accept psychologically or emotionally as if they never happened, so as to reduce the psychological burden. Another example is that you can learn the "rationalization function", that is, find some "reasonable" reasons to explain yourself. Although these explanations are not necessarily very reasonable, you still emphasize these "reasons" to explain yourself in order to avoid mental distress.