Women must avoid these misunderstandings before getting married

Sexual life is no longer as conservative as it used to be. Young people’s sexual concepts are becoming more and more open, and premarital sex has become a very common thing. So what misunderstandings do women have about premarital sex?

In recent years, sex before marriage, or premarital sex, has become a common phenomenon. Why is premarital sex becoming more common? Mental health experts analyze and outline 10 psychological misunderstandings about women's premarital sexual behavior from the perspectives of sexual psychology and sexual sociology. What kind of psychological misunderstandings do women have regarding premarital sex? Now, let’s take a look with the editor.

1. Pursuing so-called "new" ways of dating

Expression point of view: "Conventional love is incomplete. Real love should be broad-minded. Since I love him, I can give him everything."

"Love should give freedom to the loved one, why wait until marriage."

"It's the 1990s now. There's no point in being sentimental. I want to be ahead of history," etc.

Under the psychological arrangement of chasing new trends, they quickly went from first love to passionate love, and from marginal sexual behavior to core sexual behavior. The intoxicating hugs, kisses and caresses arouse such strong excitement in the sexual physiological instincts that the reason can no longer resist. A survey found that 44.67% of women had multiple sexual intercourse within six months, of which 50.33% were happy with it and 80.33% believed it was a personal matter. According to my country's sexual morality standards, the most intimate form of sexual behavior between men and women during a relationship is only kissing, cuddling, and caressing. Sexual intercourse can only occur under the premise that the marriage relationship is protected by law. The "trendy" behavior of doing whatever you want is a sign of a lack of sense of responsibility.

2. Advocate for various sexual freedom concepts

In recent years, with the influx of Western cultural thoughts and the occasional spread of sexual culture in our country, the traditional sexual morality with deep cultural heritage has been impacted. Some young people blindly worship various Western concepts of sexual freedom, and have a strong desire to break through the so-called traditional sexual morality. Some young women said: "We are facing great waves from all directions, and even rational women will feel confused." The music box of morality has soothed the conflicting and painful souls and bodies of some young people today. Their sexual concepts have been equated with primitive instinctive needs.

Therefore, some young women believe that “since I am mature, satisfying my desires is a physiological need.” Some say, “As long as I am happy in the love I make, that’s enough,” while others say, “Why worry about getting pregnant? There is no sin in sex,” and “A woman is not a complete woman if she has not had an abortion.” In the survey, 32.67% of women believed that “chastity is not very important,” and 19.7% did not care about it at all after having sex and said, “That’s just how it is,” and so on.

Once the concept changes, the behavior changes accordingly. When their love is still in the stage where they don't know how to steer the boat of life rationally, they are burned by desire and engage in sexual behavior that should not have happened too early. Some have sex with their boyfriends periodically. Although some have foreseen that the two of them will not eventually get married, that special relationship is still like two different people. Distorted sexual concepts lead to distorted sexual behaviors that are out of control, resulting in "irresponsible consequences."

3. Satisfy curiosity and exploration of sex

In today's civilized environment, sex has quickly torn off the veil of concealment. For some young women, talking about sex is no longer a taboo or they are ashamed to talk about it. Instead, they talk about sexual desire as easily and abnormally as talking about appetite. However, because many books and periodicals focus on the introduction of sexual organs and sexual life, there is a lack of education on sexual psychology and sexual morality. In addition, there are more sexual aesthetic shots in movies and TV shows, as well as scenes of hugging and kissing on the streets and in the streets. This cultural atmosphere has made girls' vague awareness and curiosity about sex more profound and realistic. They have evolved from their original ignorance of male sexual physiology, why two sexes feel sweet when they are alone together, and how sexual intercourse leads to pregnancy, to no longer being satisfied with what is introduced in books and periodicals and what they have seen on the screens of movies and TV shows, on the streets, in the entertainment industry, and under the moonlight. Instead, they want to try and explore it themselves. Even during a relationship, they sometimes take the initiative to curiously propose or do not refuse sexual requests from men. The survey shows that 64.3% of women have sex out of curiosity and impulse, and only regret it when they become pregnant and have to have an abortion.

4. Thank your boyfriend for his love and affection for you.

Although they also understand that female chastity is very important and should not be easily sacrificed, they can't hold their defenses under the constant stimulation of their boyfriends' admiration and love. Some of them are because their boyfriends are extra attentive to them, and give them great help in study and life, or because their boyfriends have made great sacrifices to solve many problems for their families. I often feel uneasy, and a feeling of gratitude arises spontaneously. When a boyfriend makes a sexual request, the girls worry that refusing will hurt his feelings, so they regard satisfying his sexual demands as a way of expressing their gratitude for his kindness. This situation accounts for 18.3% of the survey respondents.

5. Dispel your boyfriend’s worries about you

Some women think that their boyfriends meet their own criteria for choosing a spouse and are the "handsome man" in their dreams. They fall in love with them at first sight and have the feeling of "once you have missed this opportunity, you will never have it again". They are proactive in the process of falling in love. However, for some men, the more active the woman is, the more he will overestimate himself, and even develop a sense of worry about the woman, become too cautious, and be noncommittal. In order to express their sincerity, some women hurriedly pledged themselves to men, while others, in order not to be rejected by men, adopted such immature, irrational and inferior methods of "binding men's hearts" and "locking love with sex".

6. Upgrade your romantic relationship

Many young women use "sex" as a measure of love, believing that only sex can maintain and develop love. Some people think that having sex before marriage is a procedural requirement of love and a necessary step. If it happens in advance, it can confirm the relationship early, upgrade and deepen the love, and strengthen the cohesion of both parties. Under the arrangement of this sexual concept, they gave their whole selves too quickly.