Why do people hate people when they are old? What should we do when people hate us when we are old?

Many parents will find that they had a good relationship with their children when they were young, and their children were very attached to them, but when their children grow up, their relationship with them becomes more and more distant, and some even hate them. This situation is very common, especially when they are old, many children will "dislike" their parents. What should I do if I find that my children are slowly hating me?

Why do people become annoying when they get old?

As an old man, you should behave like an old man, but some old people just play by their normal way of thinking and do things that old people shouldn't do.

For example, an old man got on a bus and tore a woman's collar to ask her to give him a seat. When the woman did not agree to his unreasonable request, he sat on her lap. How would your children feel about this behavior? If you have children of your own, when they are unreasonable, have you ever considered whether you would do the same if they were your own children? Isn't such an old man annoying?

For example, as a mother-in-law, it is her duty to help her children. Even though she is in good health, she would rather go out to dance in the square than help her children take care of the children, which makes her children crazy and busy. She also shamelessly said that the law does not stipulate that I must take care of your children, but it does stipulate that children must support their parents. How can such parents not be annoying?

It’s not that old people become annoying, but that many old people have different ideas from young people.

What to do when people dislike you when you are old

First, calm down and observe to see if your children really hate you. Sometimes, due to the pressure of work and life, children are inevitably impatient and speak without thinking, but it is not necessarily directed at their parents. The reason for this situation is that parents and children communicate too little on weekdays, and children are used to reporting good news but not bad news. When they have pressure and negative emotions, they bear it by themselves, and parents can't help, and sometimes even make things worse, so the two sides are prone to conflict. In this case, parents should understand their children's feelings, but still need to find time to talk to their children face to face and talk about their inner feelings. I believe that through open communication, children will realize that some of their words and deeds have caused misunderstandings and harm to their parents, and they will make improvements.

Why are children always impatient with their parents?

When people get old, they tend to become a little weak, feel unable to do anything, and unconsciously want to rely on their children. If you find that your children have become impatient with you and start to hate you, you will definitely feel sad and find it difficult to accept this reality.

At this time, parents must feel that their hearts have been hollowed out, and they even doubt that they have lived their whole lives in vain. When they were young, they worked hard and rushed around to earn money to support their children, but when they were old and needed their children to take care of them, they were reluctant and felt that they were a burden to them. When the pillar of life that supported them to live collapsed, the parents must feel extremely sad.

When they slowly come to their senses, parents will realize that they have to survive no matter what, and that they will have to rely on their children for care in the future, so they have to find ways to face and solve this situation.

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Finally, I would like to give some advice to young people. You must be nicer to your parents. They have had a hard life and have lived through more hardships than we have. Please be more patient, caring and careful when dealing with them. Their concepts may be old-fashioned and stubborn. These are formed over decades, and some of their concepts cannot be changed at all. Understand and respect them more. Filial piety is the first of all virtues. How we treat the elderly today will determine how our children will treat us in the future, and this will be passed down from generation to generation.