What are the psychological characteristics of adolescent girls?

Puberty is the second growth peak period of our life. During puberty, our body will develop rapidly because of the secretion of puberty hormone. The secretion of hormone will also affect other aspects of the human body, such as the psychological aspect will also be affected. So, what are the psychological characteristics of girls during puberty?

What are the common psychological states of adolescent girls?

1. Pursue perfect personalization

Children in adolescence have stronger and stronger independent ideas and more rebellious psychology. They always try to pursue a kind of personal release and try to highlight their uniqueness in the world. There is nothing wrong with this, the important thing is that they usually do everything they can to be unique, as long as it is unusual, regardless of whether it is effective or not. Generally speaking, when we see the sun, we think of hope, but it is quite confusing to think of death for the sake of innovation. If this happens more often, it is likely that there is something wrong with the child’s mental state. Some children's pursuit of individuality is actually a kind of visual desire. True individuality is a psychological thing, not limited to the surface. The blind pursuit of one's own uniqueness is also a psychological problem.

2. Depression and lack of confidence

Entering puberty means gradually entering the social development period. The people, things, environment, and atmosphere around her all influence and determine the growth and perfection of a girl. The girl at this time is no longer an innocent little girl, and her carefree and natural growth period has gradually passed. Especially when they step into the gate of junior high school, the alienation of the group, the change of environment, the pressure of schoolwork and the atmosphere of competition all force them to experience the feeling of facing life alone before entering the society. These all stir up huge storms in their hearts. While these factors promote their growth and perfection, they also make some girls tend to be depressed and unconfident. Especially those gentle and calm girls are more likely to develop this kind of mentality. They lack confidence because of lack of friends, because of poor academic performance, and because of their lack of good looks. Such girls are quiet girls in front of teachers, but they may be the most likely to be petty and have tempers at home, making people feel sensitive and suspicious. These are all major manifestations of puberty.

3. Significant concern for friends of the opposite sex

The obvious concern for friends of the opposite sex is one of the most obvious and normal manifestations of young men and women during puberty. As Goethe often said in "The Sorrows of Young Werther", "Every boy is in love, and every beautiful girl is in love." It is a widespread and effective thing. However, many of our parents regard girls' admiration for male stars and their affection for boys as inappropriate, and think that this kind of mentality is shameful and shameful, and then take unkind or extreme measures to deal with it.

4. Inability to adapt

Girls like to have a sense of belonging, so they don't like changes in the environment. But generally speaking, once the natural environment changes, we can also take the initiative to adjust. If a girl cannot quickly adapt to the changing environment, this is a qualitative sign of psychological problems. Mentally unhealthy people, because they cannot adapt, often adopt an detached approach. But avoiding it cannot solve specific problems, it can only deceive yourself. If things go on like this, it will develop into psychological distortion. Parents should identify and correct this problem as early as possible.

5. Obvious reliance on friends

On campus, we always see two or three good girls walking together; when marking students' essays, we are often surprised at the obvious expectations and concerns of girls of this age group for friends and friendship. Girls often get angry and have conflicts with each other over trivial matters that seem to be insignificant to us. This mainly reflects their demand for friendship and their reliance on friends. When girls reach puberty, they already have the idea of ​​managing their families. They no longer need too much care and attention from their parents, but they are not independent and have not perfected their personalities, so they are always timid and fearful. We must admit that most girls are more sensitive than boys. When they face an unfamiliar environment and want to integrate into a new group, they cannot tolerate no friends around them.

6. Hidden rebellion during puberty

The puberty period of girls is often easy for us to ignore because even if they have rebelliousness, it is relatively subtle and calm. Boys will have fierce arguments and psychological conflicts with their parents who blame and reprimand them. They are unrestrained and do their own thing. In many cases, girls in puberty will remain silent or quickly obey when faced with accusations and reprimands, even though their hearts are filled with disgust and dissatisfaction. Therefore, we often find some girls in school who appear to be very quiet, but they secretly dye their hair, wear jewelry, and even smoke and drink with boys behind their backs. This shows that they have never truly acknowledged or accepted the accusations and education given to them by the political commissar. Non-resistance does not mean acceptance; it is a form of “implicit rebellion”.

What should parents do?

As parents, we must discover girls who have made mistakes or sexual errors as early as possible, and we must also give our children understanding and help. Parents should not discriminate, resist or punish their children. In this case, parents should think about it, don't blame the children, and sincerely reflect on their own responsibilities.

In addition, there are thousands of ways for people to succeed, and we cannot have the same set of requirements for children. When it comes to issues related to girls' entrance exams or future development, parents should discuss and consult with their children carefully. Don't take on everything or impose strict instructions, and always follow the children's suggestions. In addition, you must understand that only a perfect family with perfect parents is a happy home for talented children to grow up, but you must never let your children "sleep on the streets".

When important things happen in parents' daily lives, they must tell their daughters as soon as possible. Do not let the children lose their normal food, clothing, housing and living guarantees. At the same time, they must maintain regular emotional communication with their daughters. Only the warmth and relaxation of the family, or a kind of never-give-up true love, can resolve the conflicts that arise during some parent-child travels. Only in this way can adolescent girls gain a certain sense of belonging, and it will also help prevent adolescent girls from having obvious rebellious psychology and some deviant behaviors.