What is the best age interval between two children?

Nowadays, women who want to have a second child are concentrated between the ages of 30 and 40. Of course, there are also women in their 40s who want to have a second child. As long as they are in good health and their uterus and ovulation are healthy, they can get pregnant. However, what is the best age interval between the second child? This is a question that many women want to know. If the first child is born naturally, it is safer for a woman to get pregnant after she is one year old. However, if it is a caesarean section, it is better to wait until after the age of three to get pregnant.

1-2 years old: Peers growing up together, mothers who are exhausted

For children:

1. The eldest child is more likely to accept the second child. Both babies are young, and they have been aware of each other's existence since they were conscious. There is no problem of the older baby rejecting the younger one.

2. The two babies get along easily. Because the age difference is not big and the growth stages are similar, they are more like playmates and friends, and it is easy for them to develop common interests and find common topics.

For parents:

1. Severe physical overdraft. Carrying out two consecutive pregnancies is a huge test for the mother's body; taking care of one baby after another is a huge pressure not only physically but also mentally.

2. Great economic pressure. The financial burden of spending all kinds of miscellaneous expenses on raising two children at the same time can be imagined.

2-3 years old: Children competing for attention and parents in a state of panic

For children:

1. Compete for each other’s favor. Dabao has developed self-awareness, but his mind is not mature enough to have the sense of responsibility of an "older brother/sister". At this time, a little kid suddenly comes and shares the love of his parents. Of course it is difficult to accept. Jealousy, complaints, rejection, and vying for favors are frequently staged.

2. Healthy competition relationship. There is an age difference of 2-3 years between them, so there are quarrels and fights, but this competitive relationship can also have positive effects. Because parents are too busy to take care of their children or fail to provide timely guidance, children will develop the habit of solving problems on their own. For example, when fighting over toys, after crying, the older child may monopolize the toy, or may give the toy to the younger child, or more likely they will take turns playing. Through constant exploration, learn the correct ability and skills to solve problems.

For parents:

1. Extremely anxious. When the eldest child in his "rebellious period" meets the second child in his "worrying period", it's like a collision between Mars and the Earth. Children in the rebellious stage love to say "no", often deliberately go against their parents, and love to get into trouble, grab things, and hit people... Toddlers crawl around, touch things and eat randomly, and they may bump into things and choke if they are not careful... How can they not be anxious?!

2. Test the relationship between husband and wife. When a mother who is experiencing the above-mentioned stressful situations encounters a husband who doesn't care about anything and acts like a boss all day long, even the strongest relationship between the couple will start to show signs of trouble.

3-6 years old: two babies with deep sibling love, an experienced parent

For children:

1. The eldest child takes care of the second child. The eldest child at this age will have the mentality of being a "little adult" and will want a younger brother/sister to take care of him/her. He/she is loving and responsible, so he/she looks forward to the second child. Children in families who do not have a second child often ask their parents to have one, and this is what children of this age do.

2. The second child learns from the first child. Dabao is the object of Erbao’s admiration. Erbao often imitates and learns from Dabao. He likes to follow his brother/sister, do this and that, play together, and have fun together. He listens to Dabao and is willing to be a “little follower”.

For parents:

1. Sufficient time for physical recovery. An age difference of more than 2 years can allow the mother to recover physically and mentally, and better prepare for the second baby.

2. Become an experienced parent. As the saying goes, "Raise the first child according to the book, and raise the second child like a pig." Mothers will be more calm and composed when raising the second child because they have the experience of raising the first child.

3. It will relatively reduce some expenses. Because many of the things of the first baby can be passed on to the second baby in turn. For example, cribs, strollers, toys, clothes... these things can be reused for the second baby and there is no need to buy new ones.

4. High sense of happiness. Having another child after a few years can give the couple some breathing space so that they don't just focus on the child and neglect each other.

Over 6 years old: Awkward and jealous Dabao, easy-going parents

For children:

1. The eldest child will feel awkward and jealous of the second child. There is a big age gap between the two children, and the older child will feel uncomfortable because it means he has fallen out of favor in the family. The eldest child is often jealous of the second child, and it is not easy for them to develop a close relationship. Therefore, most of the cases where the eldest child harms the second child and forces the pregnant mother to write a letter of guarantee occur in families where the age gap between the two children is large.

For parents:

1. Re-experience the torture. You may have become accustomed to the ease and comfort of having a child who can take care of himself completely. Having a second child means that you will need to go through the previous state of taking care of every detail and working hard all over again. It is quite a challenge and you may not be able to adapt.

2. Less pressure. With sufficient parenting experience and staggered peaks of childcare expenses, the pressure of parenting will be relatively small; Dabao is also in school, so it is equivalent to raising two only children, which is relatively easy.

The age difference between two children is different, and the impact is both good and bad. The above advantages and disadvantages are not absolute, but just provide a reference for everyone.