Why do men talk less and less after marriage? How to deal with the cold husband after marriage?

After marriage, you will find that a man is in two different states before and after marriage. He is not deliberately changing. After marriage, he is his true self. He takes off his guard and is no longer submissive. Of course, this is only when a man is under pressure. When he is in a good mood, he will still be very good to you. Don't worry too much.

Why do men talk less after getting married?

First, in order to be popular, you need to show almost all your energy or strength. No matter you are good at it or not, you should try your best to make it close to perfection, so eloquence is also included.

Second, the topics are limited and the understanding is limited. The constant dialogue and communication before is to better understand each other, so that you can know each other and win their hearts. Generally, when you reach the age of marriage, you feel that you know each other well enough, so you don’t force yourself to find topics.

Third, it’s a matter of habit. The woman is used to the talkative man, or has always defined passion as conversation. Once there is a slight adjustment, she will feel that the other party’s passion has declined, and then she will think that the man talks less after marriage, but this is not the case.

Fourth, actions have replaced words. In the past, people would only do things after they said them, for fear that the other party would not see it. After marriage, they have obligations and responsibilities, and they have to do things whether they say it or not. As a result, they are too lazy to talk about it specifically, which leads to a decrease in certain things that are worth talking about.

How to deal with your husband becoming cold after marriage

There is a saying called "aesthetic fatigue", which is very suitable to describe married couples. The longer they are married, the more their love becomes intensely expressed. The sticky scenes of the past are gone forever, and all kinds of indulgences and pamperings are gone. This is the reality encountered by many couples, but love is still there, and it is hidden deep in their hearts.

There are many reasons why the relationship between husband and wife becomes increasingly cold, such as: 1. Age increases and careers become more and more busy. 2. The woman does not strive for progress and spends her time either shopping or playing cards. 3. He keeps nagging and checking things after he gets home. 4. He acts as a hands-off manager or finance minister. 5. The house is in a mess and he says he has a hard life. 6. He believes everything he hears and makes assumptions, etc. These are the main reasons for the cold relationship.

If he has not had an affair or cheated on you, you must start with yourself to make your relationship cooler. He has just entered middle age and is still full of vigor and vitality, and you are also at the age of a middle-aged woman with a charming demeanor. Women should correct their common problems as soon as possible, dress up in time, keep the house tidy and clean, take care of what needs to be taken care of and ask what needs to be asked. The situation will change immediately. He also knows that it is not easy for you to stay at home, and it is even more difficult to take care of children. The relationship will warm up, and you will be able to sing again, and he will pamper you and love you more than before.

Why has my husband changed so much after marriage?

Dating and marriage are two stages with different characteristics. When moving from one stage to another, the focus of the relationship will change, but the feelings will not necessarily change.

During the dating phase, when a man is pursuing a woman, he will take the initiative to do many things for her: make her happy; spend money and time; show his strengths, etc., all in order to win the woman's heart and make her accept him as her lover. Men during this period will cover up their shortcomings (actually women will do the same).

After marriage, men have achieved their goals and the relationship has entered a stable period. For a relationship that has already been concluded, men will breathe a sigh of relief and no longer have to strain to show themselves. Men will gradually return to normal communication with women and will no longer express love and sweetness intensively.

Many women's problems often come from this: they are used to being pampered by men during the courtship period, and after marriage, they return to a normal "life", but for them, it is too bland and difficult to accept, so they will doubt "you don't love me anymore" and "you have changed". The truth is, after marriage, men are required to ask for instructions in the morning and report in the evening, pick up and drop off at work, say they love you every day, buy gifts at every turn, listen to you in everything, make you happy when you are angry, etc., which are all very pretentious. Women should understand that after marriage, not only can they not copy the requirements before marriage, but they must also be mentally prepared to accept his gradually revealing unknown shortcomings. Otherwise, your psychological gap will make you unable to live a peaceful life, and a marriage may be ruined.

The description of your question is "my husband has changed a lot", but you didn't specify the specific changes. If he has become an alcoholic, a domestic abuser, a gambler, stays out all night, uses cold violence, etc., then it is basically that he had these problems before, but they were hidden so deeply that you didn't discover them.

If you feel that the way he treats you has "changed a lot", then you can check against the above content to see whether it is because you have not grasped the characteristics of the two stages and have not adjusted your own psychological expectations.

Another point I want to remind you is that you should also take the initiative to be nice to him, and don't always expect him to take the initiative to be nice to you.