What should we pay attention to when criticizing children? How to praise children to make them better?

It is said that parents are the first teachers of their children. In addition to supervising their children's cultural learning, parents should also educate their children on their character, self-esteem, and interpersonal relationships. In the process of education, it is inevitable to criticize or praise children. Many parents do not take this seriously. In fact, good criticism or praise has a positive effect on the growth of children. Let's learn more about it together.

What should we pay attention to when criticizing children?

1. Do not hurt the child’s self-esteem

When a child does something wrong, parents can criticize the child, but they must not hurt the child's self-esteem, nor label the child. Try not to criticize the child in front of outsiders and avoid using violence.

2. Criticism should make children convinced

When criticizing children, parents should be fair and offer constructive suggestions. Parents should not deny everything about their children just because they have done something wrong.

3. Criticism should achieve the purpose of educating children

Many parents only criticize their children verbally, and forget about it after they’ve said it. It has no effect of educating the children at all. Such criticism is meaningless. Correct education is to criticize children for the purpose of education and correction.

4. Pay attention to the child’s feelings after criticism

In addition to criticizing, parents should give their children a hug when they do something wrong. If children make the same mistake, parents should not criticize loudly, but ask them calmly if they know where they are wrong.

How to praise children to make them better

1. Make it clear why you should praise your child

When parents praise their children, they should let the children know what they did right and why they were praised. Specific praise can help children establish correct values ​​in life.

2. Praise from the heart

Parents should not underestimate their children's observation and thinking abilities. When you want to praise your child, you must do it from the heart. Only in this way can it be accepted by the child.

3. Pay attention to the way of expression

When praising a child, describing what you saw and felt is more effective than dry praise.

How to reward children correctly

1. Material rewards should not be excessive

If parents overuse material rewards, not only will they lose their motivational effect, but they will also cause children to have incorrect ideas. They will associate everything with material things, distort their children's values, and even make them vain.

2. Be good at using spiritual rewards

Appropriate spiritual rewards are more effective than material rewards. What children need is not a single reward, but a variety of incentives. They need to be emotionally satisfied, respected and trusted in personality, taken care of in life, etc. Parents should establish an equal relationship with their children and respect them more.

3. Reasonable Control

Reasonable discipline helps children establish basic principles in life and lets them know what they can and cannot do.

4. Verbally praise the child for what he should do but do not reward him

For example, eating, dressing, doing homework, etc., because these are things that children should do. If you reward them blindly, the child will think that as long as he (she) does something, parents will naturally reward him (her). This is not conducive to the growth of children. You can use verbal praise to guide children to know that what they do is right and they should do it in the future.